LGBTQ+ Community Check-In: Week of July 11-17
Hello community! July continues to move right along. After the 7 Cups birthday celebration last week, we get to celebrate International Non-Binary People's Day on the 14th this week!
1. If you had to sum up this last week for you in just 3 words, what words would you choose? Why?
2. Thinking of the week to come, what do you want to achieve this week?
3. What is your favourite way to spend a hot summer day?
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@EmotionsListener hi!
1. If you had to sum up this last week for you in just 3 words, what words would you choose? Why?
subconscious, mindset, healing - i chose those three because in the past week I have really gotten to notice some unhealthy thought patterns i still have and started to work on them. currently dealing with self esteem.
2. Thinking of the week to come, what do you want to achieve this week?
I want to pack everything already for next week, so that I do not have to panic last minute!
3. What is your favourite way to spend a hot summer day?
at the pool or on the beach! love being around water :)
@AveryLove
First sounds like you have recognized areas where you are needing to do some self work, and are putting in the effort to address those, I'm so glad you are working on taking care of yourself!
As to the rest packing in advance sounds like an excellent goal, I hope it's going well! So are you packing for something that will involve hanging around a pool or on the beach?
@EmotionsListener actually no :P im packing because I am moving homes!
@AveryLove
Even more reason to work on getting it done early, that kind of packing often takes a lot longer than we anticipate! I hope you are looking forward to your move?
@EmotionsListener
1. If you had to sum up this last week for you in just 3 words, what words would you choose? Why?
Mayhem, solitude and nightmares. Reason: I've got things to solve.
2. Thinking of the week to come, what do you want to achieve this week?
I want to be able to do some practice questions and attend school every single day of the week. It would also be nice if I suddenly had a burst of energy.
3. What is your favourite way to spend a hot summer day?
Where I live is winter most of the time so it's kind of hard to recall... But reading books until way past midnight and then cooking some tasty breakfast sounds good.
@TryingTBH2021
Those sounds like some heavy words to carry for sure. I hope you are able to find some solutions and support in dealing with it all.
Other than that, have you been able to do any of those practice questions, and how is attendance going so far? You're right having a sudden burst of energy can make things feel easier.
That sounds like a lot of winter, fortunately reading books late into the night and having a tasty breakfast the next morning doesn't have to wait for summer, right?
@EmotionsListener
Hey, uh.... I didn't actually expect anyone to reply to me. So thanks for reaching out.
Uhm... Well, mayhem has prolonged. My family haven't been supportive at all, plus they banned me from seeing my friends. Though, I shared a little bit of what's going on with my best friend, and he didn't run away. I've also been talking more with my dad. I think that's the best of this week.
My solution has been Klonopin. It helps me calm down and sleep, two things I very much needed.
I didn't manage to do any practice questions, but I've been paying attention in class, and I attended every day.
Something funny that happened two days ago was that a guy asked me out. And, as my bf puts it "you must be one of the few ppl who cries to Creep (Radiohead) in the shower when something like that happens to them". What can I say? I couldn't deal with any more feelings.
I do feel like I'm being the worst. Not only for rejecting the guy, who is nice. But in general. I'm barely holding a functional life.
Hahaha, yes, winter. Reading books, I'm afraid, is also banned. My mom thinks is unhealthy to miss sleep on that. She thinks is unhealthy to sleep the way I'm doing it now, too. So don't try to find it reason, there's none.
Anyways. You're right. I could be just a little mischievous and make some tasty breakfast in the morning. Then perhaps have a nice walk and then go to class.
If only my mother wouldn't add more weeks to me being grounded for that... Since I'm apparently, an extremely obnoxious teenage girl.
Sorry for all this. I hope you have a nice day, really. Don't worry about me, I'll sort everything out. Soon.
@TryingTBH2021
I find it unfortunate that you didn't expect a response, but I'm glad I was able to surprise you with one.
I'm sorry to hear the difficulties of the past week have spilled over into this week as well. I'm glad you were able to share things with your friend and have them not run away, also talking more with your dad sounds good. Being banned from seeing your friends sounds more concerning, what happened?
Well done on making it to class every day and pay attention even if you didn't manage practice questions, it seems there is a lot demanding your attention.
Sometimes being asked out is upsetting you aren't alone in your feelings, there can often be a lot of pressure to protect their feelings which sometimes feels like pressure to ignore your own needs and feelings. I hope you continue to respect your limits and boundaries even when it's difficult!
I'm very sorry that even reading books and having a nice tasty breakfast are seemingly difficult for you to enjoy, it definitely sounds like you are dealing with a lot! I do hope you are able to get things sorted out in a satisfactory way, but it's okay to share with us and get support while you are getting things figured out for you. You matter, and thank you for sharing some of what is going on for you with us!
@EmotionsListener
You definitely surprised me, and in a very positive way. Thank you, again. And also for reading all of that. It's really kind of you to take the time to make a considerate reply to me.
Oh, don't be sorry, sometimes it is just the way it is. I'll bounce back soon enough, don't worry. Oh, heh, I think I keep saying that, right? Sorry.
Being banned from seeing my friends kind of makes sense, I'll tell you. Remember how I needed to do those practice questions? Well, there's an admission exam coming up and I need to be prepared, and that's why I should focus only on studying.
I agree, obviously. But I hate that my mom can't understand my friends are my support system. And specially, my best friend who will go live abroad the next week, and I will miss my chance to say goodbye to him. Out of everyone, he is the most important person to me (and not romantically).
Sadly, my mom didn't understand that. If anything.... She got even more mad because said friends are already admitted in some college. And I'm both a failure and a silly love sick girl.
Hey, thank you! No one ever congratulates me on the little steps. It's nice to hear that. And yeah, something is demanding my attention. I fear stress from past weeks has made me numb or irritable, and totally unmotivated to do anything. I can't concentrate, life seems to pass me by.
It has happened to me before, and just like that time, I don't want to disappoint anyone, so I try to keep up appearances. But I've failed on that, too. Now even my family is concerned.
Being asked out is upsetting, yes, because I do feel a lot of pressure to protect their feelings. And it's true, I often ignore my own. I basically have no boundaries because I just want the best for others, but I don't care about me.
Thank you for all your nice wishes. Uh, my mom signed me up for a phycological evaluation. Perhaps they will help me figure out what's wrong. Thanks for saying I matter, I should remember that more often.
I hope you know, I'm really grateful to you. Take care ✨
@TryingTBH2021
I can see why there is a limit on how you spend your time while trying to prepare for your exam, though having access to your support system can be just as important as not having too many distractions from your studies. Hopefully you'll be able to find a balance that works for you and your mom. Though I am sorry to hear you will miss saying goodbye to your friend, that would be difficult. I hope you have plans to stay in touch online? Otherwise good luck with your admission exam I hope it goes well and helps resolve some of the negative feedback from your mom.
Also, I think it's important to recognize both the big steps and little steps, especially because what may seem like a little step may actually be a big step for someone else who is struggling with it!
I hope you are able to take care of you and your feelings and that you find more support to cope with everything weighing on you when you are able to go for that psychological evaluation. Also you do matter.
Take care!
@EmotionsListener
Seems like I can't reply to your latest message. Anyways, all I wanted to say is thank you. Take care
@EmotionsListener
1. If you had to sum up this last week for you in just 3 words, what words would you choose? Why?
boring, sleepy, sad. this last week was pretty boring and i was sleepy and sad all the time :(
2. Thinking of the week to come, what do you want to achieve this week?
i want to finish reading one of my books !!
3. What is your favourite way to spend a hot summer day?
sitting outside in my backyard reading :D
@valenheart3
I'm sorry you were so sleepy, sad and bored this past week, it can be hard to feel good when we are tired, but not feeling good can also leave us tired. Either way I hope that you are finishing reading one of your books this week and that doing so helps you feel less bored and maybe less sad. Maybe even sitting outside reading to enjoy it even more?
@EmotionsListener
1. If you had to sum up this last week for you in just 3 words, what words would you choose? Why?
Awkward, painful, disappointing. Unfortunately this is because I've been in a lot of physical pain, on top of having had a last-minute hangout with a friend and his girlfriend that could have gone better (I'm not sure their relationship is healthy), and being witness to/also going through emotional stress with some other friends.
2. Thinking of the week to come, what do you want to achieve this week?
I just wanna relax and return to some of my favorite hobbies. Maybe I'll return to writing tonight, and I'm hoping to visit my local bookshop this weekend if it isn't closed due to the heat.
3. What is your favourite way to spend a hot summer day?
Ideally, reclining on a pool floatie with my toes in the water but nearby shade overhanging my body, with a good book and something cool and fruity to drink, like strawberry lemonade.
Looking forward to Non-Binary Day! Cheers to all! :P
@TheAutumnWitch
Sounds like your past week wasn't much fun. I'm sorry you have been in so much physical pain, I hope that is improving. I can also understand being concerned about your friends while also coping with the ups and downs that can sometimes be part of friendship.
As to your goals for the coming week, those sound like some good ideas. What sort of writing do you like to do? I hope the weather cooperates and you can get to your local bookshop as well.
That sounds like a nice way to spend the day in a nice cool spot relaxing with a good book. I'm sensing a reading theme in our check-ins this week!
💛🤍💜🖤Happy International Non-Binary People's Day!💛🤍💜🖤 (Since that's today!)
@EmotionsListener
Yeah, it could have been better, but there are always going to be good and bad times. Luckily a friend helped me schedule a chiropractor appointment for my physical health issues, so I’m hopeful that I’ll see some improvement soon. It’s amazing how much friendships can affect our lives.
Hehe, thank you. 😊 I like writing fictional stories that tend to serve as catharsis for my emotions; my book characters are avatars for my past, my present and all that I’ve gone through. I find it easier to understand and validate my experience that way through them. The weather has still been pretty warm, but there have been some promising clouds today.
A proud bookworm here (^ ^)b 📖📚📚📚
Happy International Non-Binary Day to you, too, and thank you for the well wishes! ♥️
💛🤍💜🖤
@TheAutumnWitch
It is amazing the impact friendships can have on our lives, I'm glad that your friend helped you get something scheduled and hope it will lead to an improvement for you.
Writing can be a great outlet for our emotions for sure, it sounds like you have quite a collection of pieces of your story.
I hope those promising clouds brought with them slightly cooler weather to enjoy.
As for bookworm status, I started a book this afternoon, I finished it a bit ago and have already borrowed another... Guess I best get reading. 🤣
Take care!
1. If you had to sum up this last week for yourself in just 3 words, what words would you choose? Why?
Blessed- Cuz I have been truly blessed with many blessings. Blissful- Cuz I have extremely caring people. Even if they are far away, they make effort. Hectic- Due to my work schedule!
2. Thinking of the week to come, what do you want to achieve this week?
Peace, productivity, my time. Give me and my partner some space!
3. What is your favorite way to spend a hot summer day?
By staying indoors when traveling isn't required or by being at a nearby park to enjoy the sunshine! 💜💕😍
@EmotionsListener