When people use me to explore their sexuality
As a sex worker, I often meet people who are questioning their sexuality. Many of them use our time together to confirm or understand what they feel inside. Sometimes it makes me feel like I am just a tool, like I exist for them to figure things out.
At the same time, I also feel proud that I can provide a space where they can explore without shame or judgment. It can be emotionally complex because I am both part of their journey and separate from it, but it reminds me how valuable honesty and openness are.
Being able to help someone understand themselves is meaningful, and it also gives me insight into the struggles and fears people face when figuring out their identity. I appreciate the trust they place in me and the courage it takes to explore their feelings so openly.
This format makes it easier to read and digest while keeping the tone reflective and honest.
@LanaAfterDark
Yes,
Its easier for them.
But you are not just a body or a tool for their mere pleasure and pleasure, whether it's your job or not.
You matter.
Your feelings matter.
You are more than your sexuality or job.
It's fine to get it not at the expense of what you need, create boundaries and stick to them 💜💕
@Amanda84
Thank you for saying that 💜 it means a lot. And you’re right, I’m more than my job, but I’ll admit, sometimes I actually like being that space for someone, even if it means being a little “used.” There’s something kind of exciting about holding that role in their journey.
Do you think it’s possible to enjoy being in that position while still protecting my own needs and boundaries?
@LanaAfterDark
I do think it's possible to be in that position while maintaining a boundary, but I still wouldn't use the word used personally, you are more than just your job and just because your job is transactional doesn't mean you don't deserve respect as well!