Accepting myself as Trans
so Im 25 AFAB and just realizing that I may be trans, somewhere under the umbrella idrk yet. I recently just started telling friends to use a new name and he/him pronouns cuz i want to try it out. Ive cut my hair, wear more masculine clothes, have a binder, pack when im home by myself lol, etc and love all the changes ive been making. I have dysphoria about well a lot of things, my body like i feel like i should have guys parts i guess, being perceived as a woman, etc. like all the things most trans ppl talk about. But in my professional life i still go by she/her since im not ready to make that change yet but a lot of my life is consumed by professional stuff besides hanging out with friends for dinner occasionally.
I feel like how do I really know if this is right for me? I mean like i said ive liked what ive been doing so far but idk i guess how do i know if im really a man? it sounds kinda stupid writing it out…
i just have a lot of questions about how to know if this is all real, how do i really know? Like its kinda silly but i feel like i dont know what “living as a man” feels like, like is that what im already doing just i have a lot of things ive learned over 25 yrs to fit in that i gotta unlearn. like do i really know how to “live” as a guy? Idk i feel lost and confused cuz i feel like i should know these answers but i have no clue what im doing
@sympatheticCucumber2271
Hey there! You seem pretty confused, and that's okay! I cannot begin to imagine how hard it must be to only now be discovering all of these wonderful things about yourself! ❤️
I know this may not be the most helpful to you, but personally, I believe that there is no set way to "live as a man" or "live as a woman", you are you and you are unique! Whether you choose to have any surgery to permanently alter your physical appearance or you just choose to transition socially, there is no set way to be a man and there are no rules; just be yourself and embrace the amazing uniqueness that is you!
We are living in a society that is slowly moving away from gender norms - you don't even have to label your identity anymore if you don't want to! "Living as a man" is open to your interpretation, you just need to find what makes you feel most safe and comfortable and what feels like your true self!
I wish you all the best on your transgender journey - feel free to reply to this thread if you have further questions. 😊
