Bi or lesbian
Hi!
I identify as bi but recently I've been wondering whether I really like men or just women. I've always been attracted to men and enjoy kissing them, but I don't like what's in between their legs. It grosses me out and I don't like touching it which men have told me is weird. So based on that, I wonder if it's possible that I am a lesbian even though I might like a guy but not want to do anything that involves his privates...
@intuitiveSummer2072
Hello, it can be hard when we are so strict about our labels, often times they aren't as exacting as we imagine, but perhaps you may want to explore the idea of romantic attraction versus sexual attraction?
For example a person may identify as panromantic - or experiencing romantic attraction not limited by gender, but then find they only experience sexual attraction to certain genders, or even none.
I guess one question you may want to ask yourself as well is, what changes if how you choose to identify changes? What will that mean for you?
@intuitiveSummer2072 sexual orientation does not equal genital preferences. You might be sexually attracted to trans guys that have feminine genitalia, for example. Or you might be attracted to guys, but you'd rather engage in intimate activities that do not involve certain practices. Or your attraction to guys might be more romantic/emotional than sexual. Either way, it's still ok to call yourself bi if you experience some sort of attraction for more than one gender. How you choose to define yourself is totally up to you, though!
