Bisexual
BeachWeather29
February 26th, 2025
I know I’m bisexual. My family used to know as well however they think it was just a phase because that is what I told them. I wish I could tell them the truth but they believe all gays are sinners who are going to go to *** so I don’t feel very reassured that I can openly discuss this with them. I’ve had a very hard time accepting myself, I to believe in God and I have a close relationship with him but I don’t like to think he would send me to *** for being bisexual. But since I’ve been told so many times that he would I find it very hard to accept myself. How does one accept themself for being bisexual? How can I learn to love it instead of being afraid of it?
Aayla
February 26th, 2025
@BeachWeather29 I'm sorry you're going through this, I know how tough it is when you feel like your idenity id clashing with your beliefs. But truly, it doesn't have to be this way. You are who you are and there's nothing wrong in your bisexuality. Whatever your religion is, most of them have common principles: love, altruism and solidarity should be the driving principles of human life. Your bisexuality doesn't prevent you from following these principles. You can love, be altruistic, care for the weak and the suffering, and be bisexual at the same time. Who you love does not make a difference, as long as you love genuinely, respectfully and in a caring way.
I understand not everyone will agree: lots of people interpret religious in an intolerant way, turning it into an excuse to enforce "traditional" roles that have nothing to do with how good you are as a person. Why would it be a sin to love someone, if you love them with empathy and selflessness? Do physical parts truly mark the difference between "good" love and "sinful" love? How can love even be sinful? Don't ever make anyone feel like being who you are is a sin or something dirty. It's just your natural way to live and love, and it's perfectly fine.
As for your coming out, you don't owe a coming out to anyone. It's a personal choice, you should only do it if and when you feel like it. If you don't want to face their judgement, it's ok to not share this part of you with them, your safety and wellbeing comes first. But if you want them to know and you want to be free to express yourself, it's your right to tell them the truth. Be ready to answer their questions if they're willing to make an effort to understand you, but if they're just straight up judgemental and disrespectful, be ready to stand your ground and feel free to reduce the contact with them if you need to preserve your wellbeing.
Also make sure to have a support network areoung you: friends, if not family, or even an LGBT circle near you. It's good to feel like you're not alone.
I wish you the best!