Falling for my (probably straight) best friend
niceSail93
May 31st
I sometimes feel sexually and romantically attracted to my best friend. She has a boyfriend at the moment and she's probably straight. I don't want to tell her, because it would probably ruin our friendship, but it sometimes hurts so much. I wish I could stop having feelings like this for her.
Aayla
May 31st
@niceSail93 I get it, falling for a straight friend is tough. Take your time to figure things out, there's universal solution to this and everyone eventually finds out what works for them. For example, you might want to take some time to distantiate yourself from her for a while, letting her know you need some space for yourself. True friends usually understand and don't push you to talk about things you're not ready for. You might just be having a hard time with study, work, family, other things in your life, she won't automatically assumes it's got something to do with her.
Taking some time can help you figure out if dealing with your feeling when you're close to her is possible, if you need to take your shot and tell her, or if you would truly be fine just having her close even if there's nothing romantic between you. I hope you can find a solution that works for you eventually!