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Help with bi issues

User Profile: Nkala
Nkala July 16th, 2025

I’m a middle aged bisexual woman, single. I feel very alone, with few friends to talk to, and definitely no LGBT friends to talk to.

I’m frustrated because I prefer dating women, and have been for awhile, but haven’t made anything work with a woman. I feel attraction to both women and men, but I don’t like the idea of dating men. At this point though, a lot of the people in my life keep implying I should date men, and it bothers me. Tired of the passive aggression. Also worried I’m going to be forever alone.

Thank you for any help or insight

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User Profile: Amanda84
Amanda84 July 16th, 2025

@Nkala

Its up to you who you date, no one else. Don't listen to other people's opinions on your lovelufe. Don't give up on finding the perfect woman, I understand it can be hard to meet women of a similar age, but try and get out socialising, having fun and being open to new possibilities and not closed off. People often tell me, they haven't met anyone, and then I ask, have you been out and they say no, and I tell them, no one is going to turn up at your door. I hope you find someone and don't let others determine it for you 💜🥰

User Profile: Aayla
Aayla July 17th, 2025
@Nkala unfortunately, this type of passive aggression is very common for bi people. Not having queer friends might not seem like a big thing, but I know it makes a big difference. Sometimes being queer is perceived as something "for young people", while it has always existed and always will.

The answer to loneliness is often about building a sense of community. It's not too late to try and meet new queer people! You can try looking for an LGBT association near you. You're not the only one of your age that needs to feel a sense of community: you might find other people involved, dedicating their time and skills to organizing events, support groups, or just welcoming new people there. If you feel up to it, it might be a good chance to feel less lonely: I know that knowing you're not "the only one" isn't the same as actually seeing it in person!
User Profile: ClosetedTransQueen
ClosetedTransQueen August 8th, 2025

@Nkala 


I am very sorry that you don’t have many lgbtq+ friends. It can be tough to find them, but when you do, it opens up your vision of the world(ik this first hand). Many people are especially particular about the concept of being bi, but **** them. Live the life you want to lead, and you will find someone eventually. Just keep an open mind and show your personality.


-Jade

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User Profile: Nkala
Nkala OP August 10th, 2025

Thank you Jade :)

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User Profile: AwkwardPixie40
AwkwardPixie40 August 12th, 2025

Hi.

I totally gey wot your saying. I don't have a big friendship group and very few LGBTQ+ friends. I've been in 1 female relationship and it didn't work out, she was a giver not a receiver so I feel I still haven't experienced a proper female relationship.

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User Profile: Nkala
Nkala OP August 12th, 2025

I’m sorry AwkwardPixie - it’s definitely lonely and frustrating, right?

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