How am I supposed to feel enough as a guy with a girl body ?
When she also likes cis guys how am I supposed to fill her needs?
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@communicativeApple9560 hi! This is a very complex question and I don't have a simple answer, but I'd like to say: "enough" for who? By whose standards? Your value is not determined by which predetermined standards you meet. Each person is unique. Being cis or trans, having a body with this or that characteristic, having this or that experience in life... None of this determines your value.
You are great in your own way, and you've got flaws in your own way, just like every person does. But not meeting a certain standard is not a "flaw". It's just you being you.
You also seem to be concerned about meeting your girlfriend's need, if I got that right? Well, the best way to approach that is to discuss it with her. Everyone has their own needs, but everyone also has a lot still to be explored. Whatever she's experienced so far with cis guys doesn't have to be the be-all and end-all of what she likes. You can find your own balance together, as long as there is clear communication and a will to find a balance that works for you both.
I wish you the best! You deserve it!
I'm sorry you're struggling with this. I'm trans as well, and I feel similarly, though our situations are a little different. I'm with a bi cis man. We've been together long before I really realized or accepted that I was trans. I started T last year. My husband is very supportive, but I still worry that I'm not enough for him or that he'll lose interest in me or something the further I transition. I guess we just need to have faith in our relationships and that we are enough. Obviously I kid that's far from easy though. I wish I had better advice for you, but I haven't found better advice for myself.
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