I don't understand myself
archerwho
November 26th, 2024
I'm biologically a girl but I identify as a man. (I'm transgender and gay.)
The thing is that the idea of a straight relationship bothers me. So as a girl, I'd only want to date women because I don't like the idea of being with a man as a woman. But as a guy, I couldn't be with a woman for the same reason. Is it wrong or incorrect to feel this way?
(I'm not "straight-phobic". This is purely my perspective and how I feel. Not saying that straight couples are disgusting.)
Aayla
November 27th, 2024
@archerwho don't worry, you don't have to justify the way you feel! The answer in these cases is usually to be true to yourself as much as possible, and things will become clearer along the way. For example, you can first focus on expressing your gender identity in a way that makes you truly express who you are and makes you connect with your true self. Once you'll feel better with yourself, it will also be more comfortable to handle relationships. Even more so because your first statement was that you are attracted to guys as a gay man: I think deep down a part of you already has clear ideas about your identity, but not being able to express it fully because of how you're perceived socially (if you still haven't transitioned) makes things more confusing.
If you put yourself first and prioritize feeling good about yourself and about how you express your identity, your path will become clear eventually
