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User Profile: wellypen23
wellypen23 January 24th

Im in love with 2 guys but 1 is straight and has a BF and would this be normal to be attracted to guys?

Im still getting use to being gay

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User Profile: Theother172
Theother172 January 24th

Yeah I think is normal. Of course, if they are straight don't try anything but you can't control how you feel.

Search for someone who can actually be in love with you, and don't feel nervous, is a process. You are doing good :)

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User Profile: wellypen23
wellypen23 OP January 27th

I know as i werent planning doing anything on doing anything with the straight guy and crazy thing is he is a friend

Thats what im currently doing trying to find someone

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User Profile: Theother172
Theother172 January 24th

Yeah I think is normal. Of course, if they are straight don't try anything but you can't control how you feel.

Search for someone who can actually be in love with you, and don't feel nervous, is a process. You are doing good :)

User Profile: Aayla
Aayla January 24th
@wellypen23 it's absolutely normal to feel attraction, no matter who you feel it for. If it's the first time you experience same-gender attraction, it can feel strange and confusing at first, if you're not used to seeing yourself that way. But it's going to get easier with time, as you get more familiar with this part of yourself.
Take your time to process everything. There's no right or wrong way to deal with this, just remember that it's totally ok to feel what you're feeling!
And if you happen to like someone straight, it's not different than when you like someone that is not into you for any other reason than that: it hurts at first, but time will help you accept it and you'll eventually find someone who can return your feelings. Just hold on, you'll find your happiness too!
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User Profile: wellypen23
wellypen23 OP January 27th

Its still all new to me and still confusing and trying to find ways to understand it all

Its only been a few months and its been weird to undertand myself and sexuality

Is it normal to like a straight guy?

Defo hasnt been easy to get passed liking him

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User Profile: Aayla
Aayla January 27th
@wellypen23 Yes, it's absolutely normal! And it's actually more common than you think. People can't always tell whether someone is gay or not, and even if you could, you can't just turn feelings on and off. It's not much different from a straight guy falling in love with a woman that is already engaged: it happens, it hurts, but time and life will help you move on eventually. Even if it seems impossible at first.

And, sure, it can be confusing to experience same gender attraction for the first time. Depending on your upbringing and the environment around you, there can also be other challenges. Maybe not everyone will understand and accept you. Maybe you have even internalized some of the prejudice you've heard around you. But it's just a matter of coming to terms with it: at the end of the day, is it really so different? Physical attraction, emotional connection, love, they always feel the same. The only thing that changes is the gender of the person you feel it for.
And even if it's confusing, think of it as an opportunity to explore a side of yourself you didn't know. And it's just one side of you: the person you are doesn't really change, it's still you, just with a bunch of new and unexplored feelings
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