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User Profile: wellypen23
wellypen23 July 28th

Is it normal for a bi guy to fall in love with a male friend who is straight and want to tell him how i feel but not sure how he will take it and he is awesome as he has great personality and a great body

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User Profile: AsherTree
AsherTree July 28th

@wellypen23

It's great you have a crush, congratulations!  Unfortunately I don't have any idea how your friend will react.. good luck, I hope things work out..🌲

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wellypen23 OP July 29th

I havent told him as im unsiue he would react as wemare good friends

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User Profile: Aayla
Aayla July 29th
@wellypen23 yes, it's absolutely normal! So many queer people experienced having a crush on straight friends. There are no guarantees as to how it will go, but since he's straight, I think you shouldn't get your hopes up in terms of becoming a couple or anything like that. Best case scenario, he will acknowledge your feelings, understand, and remain your friend because he cares about you no matter what.
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User Profile: wellypen23
wellypen23 OP August 2nd

Least its not to bad to feel that way and should i be honest with him and tell him or should i say nothing

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User Profile: Aayla
Aayla August 3rd
@wellypen23 you know him better than anyone, so probably you can imagine his reaction better than I could. In general, I think a good friend would not be bothered by it, and even if they don't return your feelings they will just say it's ok and you can still be friends. But everyone is different, so it's your decision. Getting it out of your chest and telling him could be a relief for you, if you think it won't become awkward afterwards. Or maybe it could just be a bit surprising / awkward at first if he doesn't feel the same way, but then he'll just process it and won't find it strange anymore.
Unfortunately there's no right or wrong answer to this!
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User Profile: FriendlyRaven
FriendlyRaven August 4th

@wellypen23

Unfortunately, emotions like attraction and love can be irrational. Rarely are they ever logical. It can be an amazing feeling, even though the guilt may still be there because of this. But overall, what you're going through with this crush is completely normal! Everyone at some point (unless someone's on the aromantic spectrum) has most likely experienced a crush where they have felt similar attractions to a friend they feel they shouldn't have. It can be a tricky thing to navigate being queer and having a crush who's straight, and it can come with TONS of mixed feelings. It doesn't make them any less real for you, though.  I wish you only the best between you and your friend, whether that be something you two explore or just something that you two grow from. Regardless, good luck on your journey!

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