Struggling to figure myself out (help??)
heya everyone! I've been struggling with my identity for a while now. I am afab and do enjoy being a girl. However I've never been much of a girly girl and have gone through times where I really wanted to present as male, and over the past year or so I've really wanted to present as male. I want to start buying from the men's section, cut my hair super short in a "men's style," play male guys in videogames, have my voice go lower, etc etc. I'm really struggling with this since I do like being a girl, sometimes i love to be girly, and I'm proud of my overall identity as a woman. but I'm also really wanting to be a guy sometimes. (btw, I've ruled out being nonbinary.)
Anyway, this has been really confusing for me and I've been kinda racking my brain to figure myself out lol. I was wondering if anyone else had a similar experience and can offer some advice :) thanks so much!
I’m dealing with a similar experience currently, amab but absolutely enjoying presenting as female and feeling so much more comfortable when I do. Just remember you don’t have to fit a specific mold or specific title, you can be whatever you feel like being at any given moment. Just do what makes you happy and comfortable at the given moment in time, some days that may be masculine, some days feminine, but neither one has to be a full time commitment if you’re enjoying both. I would say that would be the ultimate freedom, to allow yourself to wake up and just be the you that you want to be that day. I’m not sure what your situation is or if it allows for this kind of fluidity with exploring your identity, but that would be what I would recommend. I’m working on allowing myself that same freedom and it truly feels rewarding.
I don't think you really have to define yourself as one or the other. Enjoy your self expression as it comes, play around with it - i believe that's the beauty of who we are, ever changing, ever morphing... Just be true to yourself it's the best thing you can do for yourself really.
I feel like that a lot too. idk but you might be gender fluid
@HitchinARide You can present as girly, boyish, neither. It's all up to you! For me, it just took trying things out. I love being girly way more than being boyish!
It should be noted that you can identify whatever gender is true for you. Presentation is different from your gender identity, even if those two pieces look similar. You do you, boo! You'll figure it out!
