Who am I?
First of all. Hi! I'm very new to everything. All I know is that I don't know who I am anymore. I feel like both genders at the same time. Like one gender can be dominant in minute and than the other in another minute but overall I feel both. It started when I felt attracted to a girl and checked her profile just to find out she was lesbian so then my first reaction was to see myself as a girl being with her. Since then I just have this other side of me that is a female like even my moves, feelings, mannerisms while also being a male too. When I look at a girl now that I feel attracted to I feel attracted as a girl and a guy too at the same time. It might sound weird but I can distinctly tell that it's different. Still as days go by whenever I look at a girl I feel my girls side being more attracted to girls so my guy side can be mildly interested in a girl and then my girl side can be madly attracted to that same girl. My girl side just feels more emotional and deeper attraction than my guy side. In everyday life it can me more mixed and maybe one is more dominant than the other. Overall when I'm alone and at night and when watching girls like on tik.tok I am most definitely my girl side. When it's day and others are around it can be a mix but overall more my guy side. Even my sexuality moves too! My guy side is bi while my girl side is lesbian. My girl side wants to be with a girl as a girl really bad but then my guy side comes out and feels fine as is. It all feels like much I don't really know who I am anymore. Feels like a roller coaster everyday.
@courageousCat139
Heyy there. I'm sorry you're going through all these confusing rollercoaster, it must be incredibly tough going through all that whirlpool.
What you're experiencing is valid, and exploring different aspects of our identity can be confusing, and it's okay to be confused and uncertain during this process.
As for what you're saying, it's completely okay to have one aspect of your identity to feel more dominant than the other. Your identity is fluid and can evolve over time.
Having one side more dominant doesn't makes the other less valid. Embracing both your girl side and your guy side is about accepting the complexity of who you are.
It might be helpful to think of your identity as a spectrum rather than fixed categories. Your identity doesn't have to be static, it can be dynamic and flexible, express different parts of yourself based on how you feel in different situations.
Remember, your identity is unique to you and there's no right or wrong way to be yourself, and you are valid just as you are.
Self-discovery takes time and it's okay if you don't have the answers right now. Always be kind and patience with yourself.
You're not alone in this, you got us here.
Best wishes to you 💜
Finding our true identity can feel confusing in the beginning. With much self reflection and support it can become easier. Take one day at a time and be gentle with yourself. We are here to support you in whatever you decide. ✌️