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User Profile: takingleaf
takingleaf July 15th, 2025

is there anyone here who can help reassure me here? I’m 21, a trans guy (who keeps second guessing even though I’ve had this identity since 13). And I haven’t gotten on testosterone even though I’ve wanted to. I haven’t brought it up to my parents. They’re supportive, try pronouns and stuff. But they’re clearly hesitant of any “permanent” changes. If I brought it up I doubt they’d pay for it, and I don’t have the funds to pay for it myself. Is it too late. Will I not see the changes I want (voice drop mainly)? I’m seeing all these trans guys getting on testosterone at 16/17 and they’re now my age and look so, so different. They look how I wish I did. Does anyone relate?

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User Profile: Amanda84
Amanda84 July 15th, 2025

@takingleaf

I can see that you are going through so much right now, and it must feel so lonely and isolating and your parents might not know how to communicate effectively as to how they feel, because it's such a life hanging procedure, a d hard for them to understand how you feel. I hope that you get all the support you need here, and if anyone is going through the same, they might reach out to you 💜🥰



User Profile: Aayla
Aayla July 15th, 2025
@takingleaf it's never too late to be who you are. If you're worried about the physical results, remember you're transitioning with testosterone: unlike estrogen, it brings much more "radical" changes to the body and it's usually much easier to "pass", even when you transition later in life. And early 20s is still pretty young, too!
Also, being able to openly live as the person you are is still a huge result, so whenever you do it and whatever the results are, it's still worth it.

As for your parents, I'm glad they're supportive! I know it would be 100 times better if they weren't so hesitant about permanent changes, but it's very rare for parents of their generation to not be at least a bit worried about it. At least they respect your identity, which means there's a good chance they'll overcome their worries once they see how these changes make you happier and feeling more like your true self. It might not be an easy journey, but if they truly care for your wellbeing, their support will also increase with time. 

Finally, there's no easy answer for financial worries, but you can try reaching out to an LGBT organization and see if there are funds they can help you access, or you can start a fundraiser while you try to save some money. Community can really help sometimes. 
I wish you the best!
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