Anyone out there?
I'm a newly trans man and something preventing me acknowledging it is my intense belief that nobody will ever love me, and it feels like any chance for me ever possibly finding someone who loves me is by staying as a girl and by going along with what they want or are stereotypically attracted too which has also made me doubt my chest binding occasionally. Is there any men out there who's attracted to transgender men or any trans men who've been able to successfully find an amazing male partner. (I'm not strictly only into cis men I just haven't met anyone before who's identified as anything other than cis so my attraction is still something I'm trying to navigate so any transmens experiences with finding love with people other than men are also welcomed as they can also help) I just need some reassurance that someone could love me the way I am and not the way they'd want me to be
@ElliotFnaf
I struggled with a belief that nobody will ever love me. You connect the fear to being trans, but in my experience it was more about self esteem and fears in general.
I desperately wanted someone to love me to fix my self esteem and take those fears away. But of course, it didn't work.
I'm now working on accepting my fears and the person I am, so I can love myself and if anyone else loves me, that's a bonus.
You are loveable. Do you love yourself?
I don't particularly love myself. And sorry i think I may have worded my post a little bad 😅. My fear definitely stems from a self esteem issue rather than from being trans, it just feels like sometimes I have to appeal to the stereotypical idea of what men want to have any chance finding love at all because nobody wanted me even when I suppressed any of my identity and orientation and stayed as a straight cis woman. But luckily I've grown and I won't let a guy dictate my actions again and I'll continue to explore this 👍