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Still okay to indentify as a lesbian?

User Profile: Wertydot
Wertydot March 6th, 2021

Hello! For the past 4 years i have indentified as a lesbian since the only people i have felt attracted to have been women. But recently i started talking with an old friend who now indentifies as a nonbinary (female-leaning). We have been talking for a while and cerntainly have something between us. We have talked about going out and just about being in a realitionship together. If im attracted to them and to be in a realitionship with them, does that invalidate my lesbian indentity? I am still only attracted to women but now also to this one specific nonbinary person.

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User Profile: teadream
teadream March 6th, 2021

@Wertydot Not really. Here's a link for you:

https://aninjusticemag.com/does-liking-a-nonbinary-person-make-you-bi-or-pan-not-necessarily-359241923561

:))

User Profile: Ariatheworld
Ariatheworld March 6th, 2021

Yes, I think it doesn't change anything, also congratulations on your relationship!

User Profile: RainyFrog
RainyFrog March 7th, 2021

@Wertydot no I don't think it changes that tbh. But if you feel more comfortable there's probably another label for being attracted to feminine people that you might find more fitting (I don't remember what this is called but I'm pretty sure I have seen it before) but you're identity is still valid! If you feel like you identify as lesbian and not something else that doesn't invalidate you, if you're attracted to a specific person

March 8th, 2021

Yes, nonbinary lesbians exist and it's okay to date a feminine nonbinary person as a lesbian.

User Profile: optimisticDay8079
optimisticDay8079 March 14th, 2021

@Wertydot you can call yourself whatever you feel comfortable with!