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Im scared.........

User Profile: ambitiousPal4553
ambitiousPal4553 January 10th

Hi guys so I was planning of coming out soon but that all changed when we were in the car my mom told me and my little sis that she wanted to talk about something finally when we got back home and started telling us how we shouldn't support "Gay stuff" when she was explaining this it slowly broke my heart Then we started talking about genders she told me she saw that I had a non binary oc she told me not to make anymore like that but that wasn't what made me mad the thing that made me mad was that she said there were only 2 genders I was FURIOUS when she told us this finally near the end she first asked my little sister if she felt awkward when she saw "Gay stuff" of course my innocent little sister shook her head yes then she turned to me and asked me the same question at first I shrugged my shoulders then she asked just a little bit I nodded my head yes but the truth was I was lying even back the when I thought I was straight the sight of the same genders kissing didn't bother me at all. Well that's what happend and after this I might never trust my parents and tell them that Im pansexual.......

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User Profile: Aayla
Aayla January 10th
@ambitiousPal4553 I'm so sorry you had to go through that. Family should be a safe space, and your mother is not providing that for you. It's not your fault, so don't ever let what she said get to your head. You are perfect as you are, and no one, not even your family, has the right to make you think otherwise.

That being said, it can tough to be who you are in a situation like this. Remember: coming out is not mandatory, you should only do it if and when you think it will be the best thing for you. If you don't have a safe space to express yourself right now, it's ok to wait until a better time comes.

Of course you might feel like hiding who you are is too much of a burden: if that's the case, remember that family is not just blood. Family is the people you love, the people who value and care for you. You can choose to come out to trusted friends before you come out to your family. Having someone by your side can help you face the close-mindedness of your family without letting it crush your spirit.
If you have the chance, you can also reach out for LGBTQ safe spaces and organizations, if there's one near the place you live.

Hold on. A better time will come. No one has a right to make you give up on who you are.
User Profile: ambitiousPal4553
ambitiousPal4553 OP January 10th

@Aayla Thank you so much for the support it really means a lot :)

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