Hello Plum, I wanted to contact you
@plumBeechwood7549
We talked in the sharing circle, you and I were in the same situation. I was wondering if we could share motivations, like sharing how much we got done each day in a blog as comments. Are you interested?
Hope you get the ping and reply here.
Sending you lots of love and warmth. <3
Hi @seashell145. I'd like that for sure. I'm glad you reached out for this! 😊😊
It's late at night for me now. Would you like to start about your day first? I'll message here tomorrow too.
Take care! ❤️❤️
@plumBeechwood7549
Hello, thanks for responding. My sleep schedule is temporarily off, so sleep time is now even though we are pretty much in the same time zone.
Today I did-
1. Journaling
2. Wrote gratitudes
3. Enjoyed music
4. Did daily chores
I would've studied but taking break from it for a few days.
Hope you'd write about your day and progress.
Hi!
I'm glad you wrote your gratitudes. I maintained a gratitude journal for a year. And I like to read it now to remember the thankful moments.
My day was alright. Had some family drama. My grandfather has never liked my mother, and he's actually very verbally abusive of her. Of course, I don't talk to him at all, but we heard some more rumours that he's talking about from some people, so she was kind of dealing with that. And I of course get roped in. But I take care of myself so it's okay. I'll be taking a day off work tomorrow to relax a bit.
Hope you have a great day tomorrow!
@plumBeechwood7549
It's nice you still read your gratitudes to remember yourself of the good days. I think it's a good and necessary practice after writing gratitudes, otherwise we forget.
I'm sorry you had a bad day. The situation sounds bad that your own grandpa spreads rumor about your mom and you have to still live with him. It's really stressful. I appreciate you taking a break from work and relaxing.
I had a bad day. I felt empty and too hungry for people. This is a deep feeling of loneliness knowing no one cares about you. Like you're feeling those intense emotions of suffocating loneliness but you can't go to anyone just to talk a little bit. Not all days are like this but there comes some days I can't distract myself from the pain. Today was that. I was raw and vulnerable.
The worst things about these days are- this sense of hopelessness. Like who would ever care?
But I did some self care and fun activities. Sweet tea helped go through the day.
I did:
1. Yoga and deep breathing
2. One puzzle
3. One duolingo lesson
4. One simple drawing and painting
Let me know about your day. How did you relax? Did you do any self care activities?
Hi seashell.
I know that feeling all too well.😔😔 It really weighs you down. And it just hits you at such times that you could pick up the phone and talk to someone but then you realise there's no one. And it's a gut punch really.
I'm glad to know that it's hapens only on days. Then you know that's only time gets you out of this black hole.
I loved the activities you did to get through the day. 😊😊 One thing I started doing when I get hit with loneliness is to come here on 7cups. Even if I don't chat just listening to other people gives me a sense that I'm not alone. It helps.
I had a weird day today. One of my customers cancelled their order for which I had already worked.. I have a bakery. It was a serious situation, still I spoke to them and thankfully they agreed to my terms so that that food doesn't go to waste or that I face a huge loss. I'm glad they were the understanding types. Other than that, it was a decent day. I had good food at lunch and dinner. And my self care was that I bought some cherries which I totally love!
See you tomorrow then. Take care of yourself! 😊❤️
@plumBeechwood7549
Yes, in my case too listening to others makes me feel less lonely. Some days I can't even listen, my mind gets foggy, it processes things differently.
I'm sorry you too go through empty feelings like this. This isn't easy to feel.
It makes me happy you have a bakery. I like creative works like this, they're beautiful and also earns you a livelihood. I'm sorry you had a difficult situation with a customer but thankfully you were able to reach a situation where it didn't cause harm to both sides. It's lucky the customers had empathy for you and it's really nice to hear that some people are nice, understanding of others. It was interesting to learn about your work day and challenges you face daily.
I'm glad you had good food at the dinner and lunch, it's nice you bought your favourite cherry. Nice you gave yourself the gift.
I'm living at home now, but I'm trying to go back to the university, from there I'll try to meet people, to increase the possibility of finding people to relate better. Will have to work small step at a time.
I had a moderately better day. Bad thing- I once lost it from intense pain and kind of lashed out. It was minor and I'll apologize tomorrow.
Fun things:
1. Duolingo
2. Learning about some historic events and some how things work
3. Trying to write down an inspiring blog but couldn't finish it- hopefully will later
4. Journaling
Hi seashell!
I'm glad that you are interested in going back to university. If you don't mind me asking, what do you study? If it's something you are okay with, then I agree that it's will help you meet some like minded people. And since its face to face that really helps.
I'm also glad that you are okay to apologise for when you crossed a line. And that you have consistently been on Duolingo and journaling. I hope this chat also works as a good outlet for you. And you can definitely try to finish your blog later.
Thanks for your kind words for my bakery. But unfortunately it's not working well financially. So to support it I am also doing a job. Today we had a small outing as a farewell for a colleague. It was alright. Most of the times at such places I am listening more than sharing, unless someone directly asks me something. I think because of lots of bad experiences I have stopped talking about myself because people have judged me and given unacceptable reactions. At one time, for 2 full years I clammed shut and didn't speak a word about myself to anyone! And can you imagine, not one of my friends even noticed it. Anyway, it was a decent outing and not one for the bad books so it's okay.
You take care! See you tomorrow.
Hello Plum,
First of all, this is going to be last of this correspondence, I don't want to continue anymore. But if you post blogs sharing your problems, I might read and try to support you if I get to read it.
I'm studying Math and Programming. I majored in Computer Science and self studying Math. Thanks, I hope to meet some good people.
I probably didn't cross a line, I just didn't want to be hurtful and handle difficult emotions in an indecent way instead of communicating. She hurt me but I still want to be empathetic. I'm not afraid of apologizing because I don't want to see people hurt, and extra emphasis if the hurt was caused by me.
I'm sorry your bakery isn't doing well financially, and that you need a side job to support it. It must be hectic doing both at the same time. I guess the thing with creative endeavors is it takes time to gather customer base, for example, it takes time for youtu.bers to gather enough follower base. Once people get familiar they'll keep buying. I'm saying this in case you feel tired and discouraged to continue doing it, hoping it will bring you hope.
I'm glad you got to attend an outing. I understand listening to other people during these events. I understand getting quieter because people don't want to hear what you're saying. All the wrong reactions because they just don't want to feel what you're feeling. They want to feel like they'll always be happy and in a good place, and will have a way out of any situation as soon as they want it.
I'm really sorry you clammed shut and didn't speak about yourself at all. And those you call friends didn't even notice. I'm sorry, this is such a difficult position to be. It's like, everyone is allowed to share about themselves but you're not allowed. You're less than others and outside society. No you're not outside society, you deserve to be heard. It's our birthright. Thanks for sharing this, I too once got stuck in a vicious cycle like this. It's good to know I wasn't the only one.
Glad the outing was not that bad, hope you get even better outings in the future. Like lots of other artists talking about your cake designs, your passions, about the meaningful things in life like relationships, the state of humanity etc. You know, I think the conversation will just flow in those situations and you wouldn't feel like you have to force things.
So that's all for me, at least now, hope you keep sharing to people. I hope your bakery gets better publicity and reach. Hope things get better, if it gets better for one person then it makes me feel so hopeful.
Sending you lots of good wishes for your creative endeavors, lots of love and warmth <3
@plumBeechwood7549
Hi seashell.
Firstly thank you for your kind words. It's been a good time sharing this with you. I really appreciate your time and effort.
Secondly, I'm glad to hear what you study. And now, I do hope you are okay. Take care of yourself. I'm here if you want to talk about anything at anytime. Please feel free to chat if you suddenly feel the need to do so.
Sending you lots of love too! And all the best to you.
