How do you remind yourself you are making progress, even when it feels slow?
Progress can feel invisible when it’s slow. What are your ways to notice and celebrate the small steps you take forward? Your ideas might inspire someone else here too!
@Yuvrajbhanot28
I still keep my diaries I wrote over three decades ago. Reading them makes me feel like thunderstruck. Some things changed, but some never change. Sometimes I can see the familiar facts in a very different perspective now.
Another way is provided by my friends, cousins or colleagues. Without jealousy or bitterness, they often remind me what I achieved, and that I experienced things they are still looking forward to, or they would have never had the courage (or need) to try.
Well that's really helpful ♥️
@Yuvrajbhanot28
To be frank, the most important thing I feel when going down the memory lane is shame...
I feel ashamed I've made so many mistakes, even if some of them made my life more vivid, worth living or funny. It comes as far as to the point when I start to understand some Eastern philosophies (like Zen or Tao), where the state of not doing often equals to not doing any harm to anyone.
Interesting. Tell me more
@Yuvrajbhanot28
I am sorry but the matter of what went good or wrong with my entire complicated life is too sensitive to discuss it in detail in public. "Tell me more" is not the password that opens the sesame 😉 I meet you for the first time and I think we should have become friends first 😊
But to make the story short:
Before my 20s I more imagined my life than lived it.
Being 20+ usually makes you feel invincible and indestructible, as if the Earth's gravity has made an exception for you.
Being in my thirties I made a lot of decisions which are still affecting my life: a divorce, moving out to another town, a new relationship, becoming a father—some of them good, some of them bad, and some of them... I still do not know.
I believe being a 30+ was the most dangerous period, when I still had the impatience of a twenty-year-old and not yet the experience and responsibility of a forty-years-old.
Turning 40+ is a moment when you feel beaten, defeated, and start to realize some of your dreams will never come true... and hurry up for all those that still have a chance!
Being in my 50s I learned to smile more and treat each and every day as a gift, starting to accept the fact that some minor bad things are bound to happen, no matter how hard we try...
@Yuvrajbhanot28
I just tell myself, it's not a race.
Or a comparative tale.
We all come at life different.
Our timelines are different.
Different opportunities and trials arise.
We don't all want the same things.
I take it one day at a time.
Try not to be too hard on myself.
Give myself the grace to fail and start again 💕💜
@Yuvrajbhanot28
Honestly if an area i am working on ... for example not taking things personally when said by a partner... each time i do not take the bait... when i let it go.... i celebrate that as a win.
celebrate the small efforts .... do not wait for perfection.
@Yuvrajbhanot28 hiya👋. for me, i've kept a digital journal for years, & every so often, I'll just read through past entries. this helps to keep the memory of WHY to keep fighting in the first place. b/c once you lose the drive of where you want to go, you'll end up going back to where you probably just drift off to where shouldn't go again.
