How To Speak Up
Timid people of 7cups, how did you find your voice irl? What steps can someone take to become bolder in words? I find it difficult to voice my feelings, especially so when I can’t even think fast enough about how I’m being affected to correlate understandable sentences. I’m often also overlooked because I don’t bring much to conversations or just that I’m quieter when speaking. Any tips? Thanks!
@LittleHopeInDark
As someone who used to struggle with being timid and shy, I can definitely relate to this. One thing that helped me was practicing speaking up in small ways, such as voicing my opinion in a group setting or asking a question during a class. It can be scary at first, but the more you do it, the easier it becomes. Try just pushing yourself a bit by bit- it's extremely terrifying at first, but honestly, once you begin to do it, you will be less intimidated.
@cindyzheng1344 @LittleHopeinDark
I agree, completely. Practice makes "perfect". With time, it does get easier and while some situations/people can still be challenging, we do become more comfortable with expressing ourselves.
We have to start somewhere- and where we are is always the perfect place to start. We'll make mistakes along the way- and it's so important we learn from them.
If I have any suggestions, I'd start with people you feel safe/comfy with! ♥︎
@LittleHopeInDark
First and foremost, there is nothing wrong with being a quiet person. ♥︎ Whether naturally, or if life circumstances have molded you this way, there isn't anything wrong with being you.
I used to be very timid and sometimes, I still am, and that's okay. What helped me was (1) knowing that what works for some, doesn't have to work for me. I had to find my own voice, and most people's approaches just weren't for me. I had to carve my own lane based on my heart, my comfort zones and my personality. (2) School/College/Community Theatre. It seems strange, maybe. But having a script- a character to play- gave me the freedom to pour life into a character without the pressure of it being "me". Through playing different characters- I found my own voice. And, in many situations and relationship dynamics, I'm still exploring what "I" sound like. It's a journey.
Best wishes with your journey. May you find your voice and continue to build upon it. ♥︎
I communicate better in writing than in speaking. For me, It was easier to speak after people saw some of my writing and would start conversations about my topics. But the easiest way I learned to speak up a bit was in making others, who seemed uncomfortable feel welcomed and more at ease.
