10 months post-breakup and I'm still not feeling any better
I've been no contact with my ex for ten months now-- her choice, not mine. The obsessive thoughts WILL NOT stop. I wake up every morning and feel the loss all over again. I want to talk to her and try to make things worse but I don't want to cross her boundaries. It feels like a part of me is missing 💔
*i meant to say "try to make things better" but I'm afraid of making things worse.
@janequartz
Hi, I can feel how that's really a predicament:
- You really miss her and feel a sense of loss and have a really strong desire to reconnect and try to talk to her and see if you're able to fix things and return to having her in your life
- But then you don't want to cross boundaries or make things worse by reaching out when she doesn't want to talk to you
So I guess the question in terms of action is, "Do I risk reaching out to her? Or do I wait for her to contact me? Or do I somehow try to give up on that and find a way to live with the idea of the two of us not being in contact?"
Here is a thread that might be relevant:
https://www.7cups.com/forum/PersonalityDisordersSupport_81/ThoughtfulThursday_2294/ThoughtfulThursdayLoneliness_265174/
