Resources for BPD

List of verified (i.e. community-vetted, more experienced) 7 Cups listeners who accept chats on BPD and indicate in their listener bio that they personal lived experience with BPD:
https://www.7cups.com/BrowseListeners/?badge=0&find=&sort=&category=44&ageGroup=&listType=listener&gender=&religion=&country=&language=&verifiedlistener=on&livedExperience=on

Link to DBTuesday masterpost containing a series of posts teaching skills associated with dialectical behavior therapy (empirically supported therapy for BPD):
https://www.7cups.com/forum/PersonalityDisordersSupport_81/DBTuesday_2147/DBTuesdayMasterpost_274756/

Link to DBTuesday post on TIPP, a set of four actions that quickly reduce extreme emotions and induce calmness by changing the body's physiology, sometimes within a few minutes
https://www.7cups.com/forum/personalitydisorders/Resources_2667/Module2DistressToleranceDiscussion3TIPP_267221/

Link describing different types of therapy that are effective for BPD:
https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/therapies-for-bpd

Link describing coping skills helpful for BPD:
https://www.verywellmind.com/coping-skills-borderline-personality-disorder-425412

Link providing tips for helping a friend or loved one who has BPD:
https://www.mind.org.uk/information-support/types-of-mental-health-problems/borderline-personality-disorder-bpd/for-friends-and-family/

Link to a site with a lot of validating/supportive descriptions and information related to BPD:
https://eggshelltherapy.com/

Link to 7 Cups self-help guide on managing emotions
https://www.7cups.com/help-managing-emotions/

Post describing a healthy/adaptive borderline personality style:
https://www.7cups.com/forum/PersonalityDisordersSupport_81/ResourcesInformationonPersonalityDisorders_459/Personalitystylesthehealthyversionofeachpersonalitydisorder_269564/#forum-post-2868450

Link to a huge list of resources for people with BPD (podcasts, videos, books, websites, apps, content creators), all vetted for accuracy, helpfulness, and non-stigmatizing language by a BPD advocacy organization:
https://emotionsmatterbpd.org/peer-resources

Thoughtful Thursday: Fear of Abandonment — https://www.7cups.com/forum/PersonalityDisordersSupport_81/ThoughtfulThursday_2294/ThoughtfulThursdayFearofAbandonment_266833/

Thoughtful Thursday: Instability — https://www.7cups.com/forum/PersonalityDisordersSupport_81/ThoughtfulThursday_2294/ThoughtfulThursdayInstability_267402/

@QuietMagic

@QuietMagic hello so I’m Emerson im a listener that suffers from bpd traits waiting for a diagnosis. I have a DBT book here are a few of my favourite DBT skills cold compress techniques like getting an ice pack or something I like to get a plastic glove then put water in it let it freeze then feel it I also like snapping a rubber band or tracking your triggers and mood also self soothing get something soft or sour and feel it or the sour taste it’s really helpful I hope I helped y’all

@QuietMagic

Awareness bracelet: have a specific bracelet that for 30 days you transfer from one wrist to the other to build awareness around thought and belief patterns you want to change. A ring could work too.

Millionaire Model: like the old tv show when you feel stuck have three lifelines - ask the audience, phone a friend or eliminate 50/50. So if something has triggered you and help is required, see if you can first resource yourself by cutting back on what's happening to fewer options. If that still doesn't work, peruse google. Still stuck, call a trusted professional or loved one. Helplines work.

Go 4D - delay, distract, deep breath, drink water

RAIN with care - recognize, allow, investigate, nourish with clear communication, award achievements, recognition and reward and empathy.

Do skin care and meditation and oral hygiene twice a day.

Make sure your diet is one that is aligned with what your body needs. Feed your gut not your fears and doubts.

Work on remembering your belonging and inherent worth. Practice forgiveness of yourself and other people, places and things.

Hope that helps a bit.

hello anyone here??

This is kind of a shot in the dark right now, but I suffer from severe treatment resistant depression and anxiety, ADHD, and an "unspecified mood disorder" (that's literally my diagnosis). However, I am a very self-aware person and I go to weekly therapy, and for the past few years I've had the thought that I most likely have BPD.

In all my experience of therapy (starting from age 5), the only things that have worked are DBT, trauma therapy, and medication. I have a long history of intense relationships, more often than not I have a favorite person, but I'm currently healing from a friendship breakup with my last favorite person.

Anyways, I just feel so alone with this and I keep working so hard to find things to make my life work, but without even a diagnosis it's hard to plan treatment. I don't really care about having a diagnosis, but I do want to get better. I'm graduating from college next semester, taking a year to work, and then going back to college to get my PhD. Things are empirically going well for me right now, but all I can think about is how far I could fall this time.

Anybody out there or have any resources that could help me navigate this? I really appreciate anything. If anyone also has any insight or personal experience with TMS or ketamine therapy, I've been recommended both of those by my providers, but I'm so scared to try anything that drastic. That being said, I'm basically maxed out on psych meds so I'm at the end of the road and I've tried enough different meds to be classified as treatment resistant, so I really need to explore alternative options like TMS or ketamine.