Understanding my BPD
I was diagnosed with BPD late last year. The way it was explained to me is that I dont exactly know how to have my own personality so I just mold myself to what I think the people around me are wanting me to be. That is the extent of which I have been educated on it and have had no help or any idea what help would even look like. Can anyone help me understand it better?
@LostLilHippie
Hi there, welcome to 7 Cups 💜
BPD is kind of confusing because there are a lot of different experiences that can happen with it, and not everyone will experience the same things or to the same degree. The most common things I see people mention here in the forums tend to be intense feelings, interpersonal conflicts, and strong feelings of loneliness/abandonment/longing. What you mentioned (not having a core sense of self) is also something that can happen with BPD and it's part of the diagnostic criteria.
This site has a lot of info about various things related to BPD (e.g. what it is, what kinds of experiences are most common with it, some of the types of therapy and self-care that might be helpful):
https://www.mind.org.uk/information-support/types-of-mental-health-problems/borderline-personality-disorder-bpd/about-bpd/
This link has some other miscellaneous resources (e.g. how to find listeners on 7 Cups who accept chats on BPD, self-help skills from dialectical behavior therapy):
https://www.7cups.com/forum/personalitydisorders/BorderlinePersonalityDisorder_326/ResourcesforBPD_268269/
hi, i’m not diagnosed but i am suspecting that i do. i’ve been changing my personality depending on the person i talk to since i was a child and i do spontaneous actions that affect me long term because of my overthinking. i’m not sure if there’s a wiki for bpd but if there is i think you can read it or read websites made for understanding bpd??