Personality Disorders Community Check-in: February 22nd-25th, 2021
Heya amazing people! Happy last week of February!
Being kind to ourselves is extra important! We sure can’t always be too kind to ourselves as we sometimes need to push ourselves and get better, but it’s also important to know when and how to be kind to ourselves.
How are you really feeling today?
What would you like to do before the end of February? (goal or plan!)
Do you think you’re kind enough with yourself? What acts of kindness do/could you do?
I can’t wait to hear from you all! If you’re not feeling like following the questions, that’s very okay you don’t have to, you can share what’s on your mind, you can say hi, you can grab a hug, whatever feels right for you! Remember that this is a safe place for you to share <3
Sending you all much love,
Waves ~
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One feeling- today feeling a bit overwhelmed I keep trying to remind myself accidents do happen but it's okay!!!
Two do by the end of feb- settle back into my normal mindset
Three!- I do not feel that I am kind of to myself the way that I should be. last week I did purchase myself some new nightly journals they should arrive today I'm super excited!! cleaning on giving myself 15 minutes at night to just write about my day what happened and why do I feel the way that I feel while enjoying a nice cup of hot tea
@ClassicAnonymous17
Hey there ! I’m sorry to hear you’re feeling overwhelmed… it’s a good thing though to keep in mind that accidents happen and accidents are accidents ! I hope you can settle back in your normal mindset, do you have things to do that usually help you achieve that?
It’s great to hear that you’ve got yourself new journals! Plus it can be really helpful to sum up your day and understand how you felt and why! Lovely habit!
Thanks for checking in, take care!
One: I'm currently having a PTSD attack. Two: start my new job Three: no I'm not
@pluckyMoon0531
Hey there Moon, I’m really sorry to hear you were having a PTSD attack, are you feeling better now ? Also do you have coping mechanisms or people to reach out to when they happen?
Good luck on starting your new job! About being nice, you mentioned not being kind enough with yourself, are there some things you think you could add to your days or do every once ina while to be kinder?
Thanks for checking in, take care!
@LinearWaves
1. How are you really feeling today?
Unfocused, overwhelmed, persecuted
2. What would you like to do before the end of February? (goal or plan!)
Happily move into an apartment for me and Chloe the cat, but that won’t happen.So, maybe meditate in the sun again on a regular basis, but the sun doesn’t come out all the time here.
3. Do you think you’re kind enough with yourself? What acts of kindness do/could you do?
I don’t know and maybe buy myself an ice cream cone.
@purpleTree4652
Hey there ! I’m sorry to hear you’re feeling this way… It would indeed be so great for you and Chloe to have a place of your own to avoid such feelings, I hope it will happen soon enough! As for meditation in the sun, even if the sun doesn’t come out, if you picture it and focus on own it usually feels on your skin could it maybe be a good exercise?
Buying yourself an ice cream cone every once in a while does sound like a great way to be kind to yourself!
Thanks for checking in, take care!
@LinearWaves
How are you really feeling today?.....Feeling alright... Thriving~
What would you like to do before the end of February? (goal or plan!).....Finish and complete my own little "food & healthy living challenge". Of nothing but whole foods for the entire month (for me that means not even any "treat" days). Almost to the finish line!
Do you think you’re kind enough with yourself? What acts of kindness do/could you do?.....For the most part I probably am. I think there are times when we "all" can tend to get a little down on ourselves for one reason or another. But as long as we don't "stay" in that place is the important thing. Just taking time out to spend time with my family, watch a good movie, or just Zone-out for the day are some things that I like to do to take the edge off of those moments.
@PoliteOcean
Heya Ocean, it’s great to hear you’re feeling alright and thriving ! Such a great way to start off the week!
How nice that you set yourself a challenge for food and healthy living! How do you feel it went? Are there some habits/discoveries that you’ll keep from now on? Also wow, no treat, did you find ways to treat yourself while still doing whole food though or nothing at all?
You’re very right on that, being kind with ourselves can fluctuate especially if we’ve disappointed our own self or if in the contrary we’re proud of ourselves, but exactly, it’s just important no to get stuck in this place! These are lovely ways to be kind to yourself!
Thanks for checking in, take care!
How are you really feeling today?
Today is better than yesterday. I'm managing my anxiety and doing my best to stay grounded in the present.
What would you like to do before the end of February? (goal or plan!)
Since it's the 23rd I suppose my goal will be to set up some small goals for March. For now, continue to check in with the community and myself.
Do you think you’re kind enough with yourself? What acts of kindness do/could you do?
I have been holding on to some guilt, but having a conversation with my partner helps. To be more kind to myself and hold on to the understanding that I am doing okay, I will continue to talk with my partner and allow myself to be loved despite mistakes. Things are going well, I'm on the right track.
@pythram
Hey there Pythram ! Very sorry about this delay, work has been so busy lately !
I’m so glad to hear that you’ve been managing your anxiety and doing your best to stay grounded in the present, I’m really proud of you for giving it your best! How has your anxiety been since last week?
Good luck on setting up goals, I hope you managed to find good ones for yourself!
It definitely sounds like you’re on the right track! Talking to your partner about how you’re feeling, especially if you get the feeling that you don’t deserve to be loved when making mistakes (which is not true at all!) is really important, I’m glad to hear you have this possibility of talking to your partner about it!
Thanks for checking in, take care!
@LinearWaves
How are you really feeling today?: Pretty crummy, it feels like everytime I've done something right five other things go wrong ): I don't know what I'm doing wrong.
What would you like to do before the end of February? (goal or plan!): I wanna try to finish a drawing I've been working on.
Do you think you’re kind enough with yourself? What acts of kindness do/could you do?: Probably not, I'm always pushing myself harder and harder just to be burnt out everyday. I could try laying down for a bit and letting myself have a nap for once instead of just pushing through the day.
@nervoussmiles
Hey there ! I’m truly sorry about taking so much time to reply, work has been really busy lately !
I’m sorry to hear you feel like every time you do something right, more things are done wrong… I can relate with you on that feeling though and it’s a pretty frustrating and tiring one… How has your week been since the other day?
I hope you got the time and motivation to finish your drawing!
It’s a good thing that you’re seeing that you might be hard on yourself and should allow yourself some breaks instead of always pushing yourself! Do you feel you’ve managed to implement that the past week?
Thanks for checking in, take care!
I’ve been better. Just losing hope. I feel like people only talk to me out of pity. I’m scared of more people leaving too. I wanna try to deal with my procrastination/concentration issues. I hate myself with a passion so not really. I need to stop telling myself bad things.
@NiftyBear
Hey there Nifty ! I’m really sorry for my delay with my answer, work is being so busy !
While I’m glad to hear you’ve been better, I’m also sorry to hear you’ve been losing hope… Feeling like people are only talking to you out of pity, and being afraid of people leaving, these are tough feelings to handle and I can really relate with you on that… How have these feelings evolved throughout the week, did they get better or not really?
As for your procrastination and concentration issues, I don’t know if that can help you but I sometimes try and make myself small lists of things to do (putting the essential, really not making a long list, else it kills the motivation!) and even a small planning to see that I will only be at it for half a day or a couple of hours, I don’t know if that can be of help in your situation?
As for hating yourself and telling yourself bad things, while it’s easier said than done, I couldn’t agree more! Things can be hard enough on their own so if we also are too hard on ourselves then it’s no help! (but again, easier said than done for sure!)
Thanks for checking in, take care!
Hi again waves! Not a worry i understand. These feelings just get progressively worse. I’m trying my best its just getting harder and harder. Overwhelming.
@NiftyBear
I'm sorry to hear they get worse and even overwhelming... Are there some things that usually help you when feeling this way?
Drugs but I’ve been clean for a while now. Other than that nothing really helps.
@NiftyBear
