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@Hope💜

Hello evryone

I am honored to be apart of 7 cups and hope you all have an amazing and postive day.

Hi everyone 😊

I am glad to meet all of you here😊

Hi, new here and haven’t really done this type of thing before. I decided to join because I am having a hard time dealing with chronic illness and the effects it’s having on my life. I had to quit my job as a nurse a few years ago and was told after one surgery I’d be back to work in 6/8 weeks. It’s been years now and I have not been able to go back, not even close as things just keep getting worse. Almost all of my friends have bailed and my relationship is pretty much over because of my illness and people not wanting to deal with “sick me” who can’t go out and have fun right now and cancels plans last minute and needs more support than she can give right now. My family tries to be supportive but only in the manner they want to and even though they have seen me live with this and the complications they still don’t understand and my attempts to educate them or help them understand why I need to do things my way for my well being are met with arguments, eye rolls, and zero understanding. I had to have very major surgery at the beginning of this month due to what boils down to physician negligence and I feel I’m not coping well whatsoever with the entire situation. Between the trauma caused by uncaring doctors ignoring my complaints for years, the stress and uncertainty this has put on me and my life, the daily excruciating pain, the physical limitations I now have to deal with until I have a second surgery in 6 months, having to move back in with my parents at 41 years old because my 42 year old boyfriend didn’t want to “be stuck at home on the couch” when I got out of the hospital and needed him, and the unwelcome scars mentally and physically that all of this has caused and is still causing I feel like I’m barely holding it together. The fact that everything I’m going through could have been avoided has caused ridiculous anger as well as PTSD and having zero control or say over anything that’s happening in my life has made me feel a general mistrust of pretty much everything at this point. It seems no matter how I explain it to my significant other or family they just don’t understand my sadness and grief over the life I feel I have now lost and missing my old life and old self as I watch everyone that used to be in my life move on without me and live the lives I should be living but can’t.

I’m not exactly sure what it is I’m looking for but it would be nice just to have people that understand the anxiety and sadness and powerlessness of living with chronic illness and being able to share about it without annoying anyone or being shamed for “complaining” or reminded that I’m “lucky that it isn’t worse… look at _______” . I need to feel ok that my way of dealing with my lifelong illness at my own speed that IM ok with is in fact ok and even though others may not agree, judge me, or think I’m wrong and should do it their way, I still need to do things at my pace for my well being and I’m not a horrible person/friend/girlfriend/sister/daughter for doing so.

So sorry if that was too lengthy of an introduction, I’m not exactly sure how much of that I should have included but that’s me and why I’m here and a few things I think I’m looking to find by joining the site.

my name is Andy. nice to meet you all!

Welcome to 7 cups everyone, all the best for your journey, be kind, compassionate and respectful❤️👑

Hello :)

Hi everyone,

It's great to meet you all-I am quite new to 7 Cups so I look forward to getting to know you all more, I hope you are all having a lovely day, and just wanted to say hi. :)

thx