How To Know If Your Inner Child Is Sabotaging Your Romantic Relationships

“When you date someone you like, you can’t get enough of them. You always want to know what they’re doing, who they’re hanging out with, and how much they want to be with you. Even when you do receive validation from them, it still doesn’t feel quite right. If they need time for themselves, you can’t help but take their behavior as a sign of rejection. Even the littlest negative mood shift from them can have you dreaming up the worst-case scenarios. If these insecurities are a common theme in your dating life, you may be struggling with an anxious preoccupied attachment style.

The anxious-preoccupied individual is filled with anxiety about the possibility of rejection and abandonment, so they become preoccupied with seeking out and maintaining relationships to feel safe."

Common signs of anxious preoccupied attachment.

• You hate being single.

• You fantasize about the perfect partner constantly.

• Low self-esteem and negative self-beliefs.

• You mold yourself to the person you’re dating.

• You engage in protest behaviors.

• You could be described as “clingy” in relationships.

• You display territorial behavior in relationships.

• Checking your partner’s phone.

Dating with an anxious preoccupied style.

Challenge your negative beliefs.

Tell your partner when you’re feeling distressed.

Ask for patience.

Be consistent and balanced throughout their triggers.

Reach for transparency instead of reassurance.

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✨Discussion: Rewiring your neurological system and achieving security will need work to overcome a worried, preoccupied attachment system, but it will be worthwhile effort. Don't give up if developing a strong attachment to yourself takes some time.

Keep in mind that you are rewriting core self-images that have previously prevented you from developing a relationship with yourself and others. So that you might feel empowered to establish healthy behaviors that lead to the relationships you actually desire.

✨Reflection: Do you know your attachment style? Have you ever showed signs of Anxious Preoccupied Attachment Style?

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