Psyche: How to be more secure in your relationships
"Too clingy – or too scared to commit? Your attachment style is rooted in your childhood, but you can change it.
""Your attachment style has its roots in your childhood. Attachment science originated in the 1950s with the child psychologist John Bowlby, who argued for our deep-seated need for love early in life.
Your attachment style plays out in your adult relationships. Early life experiences with your caregivers shape your expectations – consciously and unconsciously – of what to expect from relationships throughout your life.
Identify your current attachment style. This will help you understand why you behave the way you do in relationships. There are free tests you can take online.
Understand the four attachment styles. There is a secure attachment style, and there are three insecure styles: anxious, avoidant and disorganised. Key to them all is that you often expect to get treated based on how you got treated.
Examine the attachment styles of those you love. If you and your relationship partner don’t understand each other’s attachment styles, you’re more likely to keep repeating the same behaviors and arguments.
Work towards changing your attachment style. If you want, there are ways you can begin to deliberately change your attachment style, not only in the context of romantic relationships but also with your friends, family, and colleagues. Part of this is about noticing patterns in your behavior and practicing responding differently. "
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Hiya Braid, thank you for sharing another awesome article. I feel the same :D our childhood/ early formative years play a significant role in sharing our thoughts, beliefs, emotions, experiences and ofcourse affecting our attachment styles and how we interact with the world.
Sounds like a great approach to become aware of our own and partner's attachment styles, develop an understanding and work on it accordingly, in order to strengthen our relationships. ❤
@globalBraid3744 great article
It's good to introspect and understand your own behavioural patterns
I’m a little from all columns. I can see where there have come into play in relationships before. Luckily my husband has a similar mixture, so there’s some more understanding of what’s needed for both of us.
I meant to add that this still becomes a problem in friendships from time to time though.
@globalBraid3744
This is a really great article to help define and identify what type of person you are and how you react to things like your relationship.
@globalBraid3744 Great article!