Psychology Today: Should You Date Your Mirror Image or Do Opposites Attract?
Psychology Today: Should You Date Your Mirror Image or Do Opposites Attract?
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“Between Tinder, Bumble, OkCupid, Match, eHarmony, Coffee Meets Bagel, and so many other dating apps, the number of potential romantic partners at your literal fingertips has never been greater. Of these potential partners, who should you choose to date if you want a relationship that will actually work out this time? Here come the waves of advice. Whether solicited or unsolicited, friends and family may echo one of two contradictory recommendations for your dating life.
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Date someone similar. After all, birds of a feather flock together. Start dating someone who is a mirror image, someone who shares and reflects your values, personality, lifestyle, and goals
Date someone complementary. Opposites attract. Find the Yin to your Yang, someone who is different and seems to complete the other half of you.
One of the most robust findings from all of psychology is that similarity makes for a good pairing. There is little, if any, evidence for opposites attracting. Many researchers have assessed romantic couples across a variety of dimensions and found that couples that form lasting relationships often have marked similarities. Relationships are much more likely when couples share, for instance, similar height, weight, levels of alcohol use, education, religiosity, personality traits, values, physical attractiveness, ethnicity, psychological disorders, intelligence, political ideologies, and so on.
So, the next time you’re scrolling through potential dates, remember the importance of similarity."
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Reflection: Do you agree with the findings in this article or do you think opposites attract? I’m thrilled to hear your answers!
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@professionalVision2624
That is an interesting post. Answers the question in many’s minds! Good Job!
@SmileSravani
Awwww! <3 I'm so happy you liked it! :D
@professionalVision2624
About the opposites attract statement it's actually super interesting. Rather than finding someone who is the complete opposite to you it might be the fact that you find their personality or features that complement yours the best. For example a rather introverted fellow may feel attracted to an extrovert because of the complementation they have with each other.
@sunnyWriting4806
Yes I agree! The findings in this article was really intersting and it did open up a new perspectiv about relationships and what makes someone feel attracted to us <3
I don't think complementary equates to opposite.
No need to go to extremes. Find someone who has similar values. It helps if you complement one another.
@AffyAvo
Yes I agree! It's great to find someone who shares the same values as you so there is no "deal-breaker" that will turn up later if you had talked about what's important and to see if you partner is on the same page <3
@professionalVision2624
I agree with the findings! I think that while two people who are opposites might share chemistry, it probably would not work in a long term. I have read about something called fatal attraction. This is a term used in psychology to label when the specific behavior/feature that drew you to another person is the same behavior/feature that causes conflict for the two of you later in a relationship and might lead to a break-up.
@globalBraid3744
Thank you for commeniting and sharing! Wow intersting! I have heard about it before but that's an awesome perspective and insight! <3