Self-Love: More Than a Back-Up Plan
“Self-Love looks like a bunch of different things to everyone individually because self-love is a unique action. Just like dancing, singing, or performing any craft, self-love is as unique as the doer. If Self-Love is anything, it’s more than a backup plan.
Self-Love as a Thought
You know the feeling when you know you have something to do, but you proceed to procrastinate on the deed? Self-Love is sometimes like that. You know you should do better, think better, advocate for yourself, but…you just don’t.
Instead of thinking about self-love as a chore, or something that you need to do to be accepted in society (or accepted in general), think of it as a tool. A tool that does everything.
The Tool that Does Everything
If there was such a tool in the world that did everything, what would you do with it? What problems would it fix? Would you carry it with you everywhere, or just in the trunk of your car? Would you recommend that everyone purchase one, or would you hone the item and feel special to have a one-of-a-kind tool? Genuinely think about these questions if self-love was a tool.
Something great to learn is that self-love is a tool in the real world. It doesn’t have a handle or a hook, and it doesn’t come with an assembly manual or book, but somehow, everyone can still see whether it’s working or not.
It’s more Than a Backup Plan
Suddenly wanting to “focus on yourself” after you’ve been heartbroken, rejected, or anything like that secretly does a big disservice to your consciousness and how you operate in the future.
You are not anyone’s backup plan, so don’t be your own backup plan, either. Be your first choice, always. Build security, build a friendship with yourself, build knowledge of yourself and your liking, build a safe space for yourself, and make your mind a sanctuary–not an escape from someone else’s rejection of you. Use your tool and build a better you.”
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✨Takeaway: You shouldn't use self-love as a fallback. No matter what, you should always love yourself! Self-love is a tool that is already put together and prepared for use.
✨Reflection: How do you show yourself some self-love?
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@innateJoy9602 I show myself self-love by taking care of my physical health and working on my mental health. I've also worked on having more self-compassion and not berating myself for the tiniest thing.
@comfortableNight4463
I love that!
Lovely ways to show yourself some self love!💛💫
@innateJoy9602 That's so true. We all remember to turn to elf-care and self-love only after a break up, losing a job and generally only in hard times. However, practicing self-love before all that happens can prepare you and make you more resilient for the hard time a priori. It's important to aknowledge that and try to prevent hurting insead of trying to heal a deeper wound afterwards. Thank you for the informative post!
@calmDew1576
Well said!
Practicing it more often, not just during hard times, can be beneficial and come in handy for the future!💛💫