Advice......How to rip the bandaid off
I don't know how........ Married for almost 12 years. Covid made the struggles more of a reality because we couldn't "mask" it with our sons activities and busy plans, but the fact is, things haven't been good for about 4 years now; haven't had sex in over 2 years and there is a lack of emotional connection/intimacy. I am extremely unhappy; find myself cold and distant. I get irritated at almost anything he says/does and then I snap with a snotty tone. I am not an angry person, don't like conflict at all and hate knowing that I'm causing anyone pain/hurt. But I can't do this anymore. How do I put my happiness as a priority and tell him I'm done. Feel like I'll be the bad guy and feel guilty because he isn't a bad person; I care about him and respect him but can't live like this anymore. We both deserve to be happy and our son deserves a loving environment; we don't fight, just live like roommates, very empty but civil. I don't think I have ever been the one to end a relationship (not even as a teen).... not sure I am strong enough but know I can't live like this anymore. Advice please!!
Hello, @FindingMy2point0 - I feel your pain. Everyone's situation is unique, but it does sound like you could use a listening ear. Feel free to message me and we can chat. I've had some similar life experiences so think I can relate.
I’m almost in exactly the same situation, so I have at least an idea of how agonizing the way you’re feeling is! Married for 16 years. Thing is, I’ve struggled with my feelings on and off through the entire marriage, whereas you just the past 4 years. Do you have a desire for things to get good like they used to be? Check out Sharon Pope online, particularly her YouTube videos and her Blog articles. Good luck!