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User Profile: Ndalimina23
Ndalimina23 June 5th, 2023

Hello sorry to budge into your account like this but I need some friendly advice. I hope I won't get ya in trouble.


I don't know if I was wrong but if I hear it from a man point of view will unlighted me a little bit. Is alcohol a private thing? Or it depends on the type of alcohol one's drinking?


I got into a brutal disagreement with the partner which ended up being a break up. I'm not vowing him as bad and I'm good. The fight was on the bottle of black label empty bottle that I took outside because they have been smelling so bad to me since I was pregnant. My partner got angry and yell at me for taking his empty bottle outside and I said to him that I can't take them back cause I'm trying to minimize the morning sickness since I just vomit out of nowhere. It was when he mention things like he drinks privately and I'm ruining his reputation and disregarding his feelings. Mind you he has been going to different places to drink with his friends and colleagues. He says this because there were two females who were outside minding their business and during the festive season he was drinking and left the bottle outside for few days and when I ask him he said he left them outside because there was no one around. In the middle of this he ended up throwing my dirty underwear outside in exchange for the bottle of beer cause to him they are private things therefore he will take my private underwear and throw it. The empty bottle did stay outside for 15 mins cause I was cleaning the room after I collected them together with the trash N throw them in the bin.


After I sat down with him and said to him I didn't know that you drink privately and forgive me for what happened but he didn't apologize for his actions and threatening words. Or to emphasize that I am not doing this intentionally but I'm trying to minimize the morning sickness. He didn't even think of that, now I have guilty mind that I should have just left them in the room as much as he wanted them there N continue to be sick cause my feelings matter less than his. Tell me if my doings were wrong. If that was really disrespectful cause we broke up and going through emotional pain alone it affects the kid as well.

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User Profile: Optimisticempath
Optimisticempath June 9th, 2023

@Ndalimina23 im sorry you guys broke up , makes sense how the stress is making you feel worried more and for the kid also :(

hearing your side of the story it doesn't seem like you did anything wrong or on purpose, taking care of yourself isn't wrong 💕

would it help to talk things through with him calmly and work things out if possible?

please take care of yourself and your baby 💕 you deserve rest.