Advice please!
My ex boyfriend broke up with me yesterday due to him losing feelings. But the most confusing part about it is that he had literally no explanation as to how he lost feelings. He went on and was like youre an amazing girl I have literally no clue how I lost feelings, and Im truly bewildered. I want to get back together with him because I see no reason why we shouldnt, but I have no clue how to go about it and ignite his feelings back for me. Any advice?
@SamurottBandit That happens sometimes people fall out of love or get bored it all depends on if he would give you a second chance the chances of you getting back together might be slim but maybe its worth a try just depends i guess.
@kitkat34567 the thing is he literally lost feelings over the course of like two days. We were great on Saturday and then he got distant Sunday and then broke up with me Monday
@SamurottBandit
Hey there, hopefully you are doing well. There's a few things I would like to point out;
He went on and was like youre an amazing girl I have literally no clue how I lost feelings, and Im truly bewildered. (I can tell he wanted to end the relationship for awhile, however he didn't have the courage to go through it at the moment due to certain fears. Its normal this would caught you by surprise, and its very hurtful how things ended) I want to get back together with him because I see no reason why we shouldnt, (Its understandable you would want this because you love him, but you also have to respect what he wants. You don't have to like his decision) but I have no clue how to go about it and ignite his feelings back for me. (The moment you begin to act upon on "i need to do something on order for him to have feelings again" is where it will push him away. Its important to let him have his own space, reach out to you first and earning you back. This isn't about "I have to get him back", is about "He needs to earn me back once he realizes what he has done") Any advice?
@freshLight64 He hasnt been losing feelings over the course of a long time, he told me he started losing feelings Sunday and then broke up with me the next day which Im rather upset about because he couldve waited to see if it was just a one time thing. We were great this Saturday and we were acting like we normally do and then he got distant on Sunday. I do agree with the last part though and I know I have to give him space and I havent talked to him since the breakup.
@SamurottBandit
I understand what you are saying, and i see also what he is saying. It's imposible for someone to lose all feelings in a few days to a week, attachment and feelings simply doesn't work like that, however if its in the course of months then yes. If i were you I would have also felt hurt, sad and confused because it came out of no where. Should he has given it a chance? yes, but now we are seeing how he handle things when challenges comes.
@SamurottBandit
Have u talked to him?
@Lovetennis I
@SamurottBandit. Just wanted to see how u were doing. Experiencing somthing similar ...but we are broken up now. Having a hard time. Things were good until out of blue they were not...then I hung on for months ...he didnt want a commitment and I should have known my worth and walked away but I kept hoping things would just go back the way they were. They eventually started to so I thought.....then my friend saw him on a damn daying site 3 days ago....he denied it...I mean...how?? Lol
Anyway...that's my drama. 🤧🙄😂 what is the plan to talk/see him?
@Lovetennis I actually just talked to him earlier. It went really well, I basically told him everything that was on my mind and he pretty much agreed with me and he said that he was gonna take some time to think about if he made the right decision. I hope he decides to get back with me, but ultimately its up to him and Im okay just being friends with him. Wed both be sad if we stopped being friends because of this lol
