Bad breakup
What do you do if you see someone everyday, they still live with you and your dogs, you are best friends but they dont want a relationship and don’t want to cuddle or do relationship type things because they feel like they cant do them consistently and dont want to either. I am the type of person who needs a cuddle to feel better but they are independent and sometimes dont want to cuddle or be attentive but are 100% capable of being so loving and caring. We broke up months ago but we sleep together and he basically still lives with me. He told me that its him that doesnt want a relationship at all with anyone like ever in the future and its not me, but things have happened in his life that mean he doesnt ever want to be in a relationship. I love this person so much and am soon to be moving in with him and his parent for financial reasons :/ its going on 5 years we’ve been with eachother
@selfdisciplinedPond2088,
You might want to consider couples therapy. A good therapist will help both of you to express needs, feelings. If he has a traumatic past then a therapist will not help on that but a therapist might be able to make him aware how trauma can get in the way and help him to realize that he is not helping himself now to live himself. It is tricky though, trauma can run deep and my perception is that trauma will never go away. But if the time is right, one might be able to learn to let it in, to acknowledge the pain, thus not letting it run your life.
It’s best to move on sounds harsh maybe kicked them out seeing them brings trauma they’re just using you for there own needs I don’t think they care and they know they can keep running back to you because you let there bad behaviour slide because you’re probably too nice but to get over someone is to have fresh start maybe move out and to a new area sometimes replace someone you like with someone might help but it’s up to you xoxox
