Betrayal and Broken Trust Waiting On Apology :(
The story is too long to tell and this involves long distance, but short story...a guy I've known for two years, dated kind of and who became my best friend seems to have been intentionally leading me on with the not ready for a relationship thing and then 9 months later still gives me the who spiel but starts hooking up with a girl on his ship and then a week later is in love and they are now in a relationship (after she went home and broke up with her live in boyfriend if 5 years). But she is now working on my ship and its been the longest week and a half.
He asked me if I knew anything about her, nay, begged me and called me a bad friend. Once I finally told him about her multiple infidelities(not including him) he blocked me in fb and whatsapp and another messenger app and then immediately told her which made work for she and I uncomfortable for a couple of days.
I can't stop sending him whatsapp messages(I switched to another number on my account)telling him how disappointed I am in him and how I no longer respect him because of what he allowed, did and is ok with in this situation. Because he won't give me a proper apology or acknowledge what we had. He reads the messages but never responds it blocks my number... What's the point of wanting to read them? Every time I see her, I get so frustrated and send another one. She is so immature and acts like a teenager even though she is 27 and it angers me that that's the kind of 'woman' he wants to date and who he betrayed me over. I know I should stop. Block him myself. But it's like I want to punish him and I'm not even sure if he cares because she sits in the bar showing her new work mates the cute texts he sends her all night..like we are in high school...does he just want to be with someone who makes him feel more manly?
@warmheartedHuman2014
Hey...I completely empathize with your situation. It sucks, and it sounds so heartbreaking. I'm sorry you're going through this, and I'm sorry you're in love with someone who doesn't feel the same. I too have gone through something similar with a LDR, and I just want to urge you to put yourself first. It doesn't seem like this guy really values you whatsoever, and it seems like he was just using excuses to not get into a relationship with you for whatever reasons he may have. I think as hard as it may be, it might be better for you to try to move on. He clearly isn't responding to any of your messages, and I don't think his mind is going to change. It sounds like he was only using you because he was bored and didn't have anything going on with anyone else around him at the time, but I can't be too sure. Anyway, I hope you're able to put yourself first, and find ways that will help you move on in a healthy manner in the long run.
@emitlove thank you for your response. It's just weird that he keeps reading the messages but won't respond or block my number. I guess you never really know someone. How can someone pretend for that long? It still doesn't all make sense and he only have half asses vague apologies when it first happened. At the very least, I thought we were really good friends. I didn't realize he was so immature and unloyal :(
@warmheartedHuman2014
yeah, i totally understand how crushed you must be. in my similar past situation, the guy just abandoned me after awhile. never apologized, never acknowledged what we had, nothing. try to keep your chin up, and move on from someone toxic like that guy you're talking about. it'll be painful and hard, but i promise you that you'll want a guy in your life who will admit his feelings for you, and won't leave you for some random girl or ignore you.
@emitlove yeah. You are right. I guess I really believed him when he said he wasn't ready for a relationship since it had been two years. And he even said it two days or so before he slept with this girl and told her in the beginning he didn't want a relationship. But two weeks later he was 'in love'. And now they have planned contracts for the next year and she has already been to his house im Scotland. I guess I also thought we were best friends...if anything.
@emitlove he did give half assed apologies when he first started dating her before he broke up with her boyfriend at the time. He was adamant he still wanted me in his life and upset I said I couldn't be right now. Said he was sorry about not telling me the whole story but then I still end up finding stuff from her because she is ruthless and talks about him and only him in the crew bar even when I am here. Recently, he's just been like 'yeah maybe I am an asshole and you have a right to hate me'. But all this time, even when I asked, he would still never acknowledge what we had or at least explain more. We have known each other for two years. He has known her for two months...and a month of that, she still had a boyfriend...I know he is lost and confused. But I was always there for him and supportive of him and believed in him...
@emitlove talk to me pls.
@ScarletEvian
What's happening? How are you feeling?
Please... I need someone to talk...
@ScarletEvian hey, is everything ok?
