Broke up but best friends still!?
So she broke up with me because we kept having little problems adjusting to each other i didn't find it a problem but she's not use to relationships and doesn't think a relationship should be thought for so much even though we was together 7 months and knew each other and became close friends for a 1 year before dating. We both loved each other and she told me she doesn't love me any more but she was madly in love with me before but its over now as its not working, I was so upset and don't want to lose her because we bacme best friends aswell. I love spending every moment with her. So we gave it a week and then we started seeing each other as friends. Like going round her house to chill or going out to the shops or a walk in the park. We started to call again once twice or three times a day, another week later I ended up going to hers getting dressed into pjs to relax more, she would cook me some food. The only thing is we don't have any contact anymore, but I'm starting to think. Is this still kind of a relationship but without the physical contact side. She definatly doesn't look at me in the same way as she use to. Before I could tell by the way she looked that she was really into me and happy. Now that's not there. Yesterday we spoke 3 times again on the phone throughout the day messaging a few times in between too like every day for the last week or so but then today I didn't get a message until half way through the day and thats if nothing else. I refused to send the goodmorning message today because I'm normally up before her and have been doing it most days first, I gave in at midday and asked how she was, a few hours later she just replied with "good are you?" Now in my head is she thinking I'm not interested anymore because I didn't message her this morning or is she starting to realise were getting too close and like a relationship again and trying to step back. I can't move on from her, she did make me really happy, I've always wanted to work on our relationship. I was so in love, and still am every time I see her. I think of her from the second I wake up to the second I fall asleep and even struggle sleeping most nights thinking about her and everything we have done together, having so much fun. I know people say giving space and time heals people and makes them maybe miss you but I can't stop thinking that she's going to think I don't care about her if I don't message or call or see her
I am sorry you are going through this. It’s ok to feel how you feel. But for sure give her space to let her figure out how she feels. She knows you care about her. For some reason she is pulling away. You have to let her or you will drive both of you crazy. If it’s meant to be nothing can stop it. If it’s not meant to me nothing can make it happen. I am sorry you are hurting. But remember this too shall pass.
Thank you, I'm just confused because yesterday we didn't speak besides 1 message hello. But today I called her and we spoke for 2 hours. I had to go to eat lunch and she called me back not long after for another 40 minutes, she even talked to me about what her mom would be like when she meets me and that I would get on so well with her brother