Broke up but trying to be friends
My ex and I just broke up after almost 6 months. Due to the pandemic our relationship had progressed quickly. Possibly too quickly. We broke up on a positive not with both of us acknowledging that there we may have moved too fast and due to each of our own individual issues decided we may not have been ready to be with each other romantically. I understand where my partner was coming from and I agree, but I still do not completely understand how if they know what some of the issues were and are going to work on themselves why they couldn’t do that while we were together. Anyways, we both agreed that we are still important people to each other and want to try to be friends. But neither of us have ever been friends with our exes before. Does anyone have any tips on how to get over someone while still trying to support them? Any types of boundaries or feelings I should be wary of? I know they said they do care about me and want the best for me, but I also recognize this is still a break up and it still hurt when they removed traces of me (pictures of me and us) from their social media
This may be hard but treat him like everyone else. Yes, there will always be the memories, but you will have to deal with them at some point. Treating him as you would treat any other person will show him your good will and desire to maintain a friendship and will also help to see him as a ‘regular Joe’ rather than your ‘ex’.
The question isn’t how to get rid of thoughts and feelings, it’s about how to deal with them, pushing them away will only cause you to feel worse later on. Be kind to him but don’t text him or search for chances to see him. In order to get back to a ‘normal’ level of friendship again you’ll have to keep more distance then if he’d be a regular friend. This is what most people can’t do and why they always struggle with their ex. I’m not saying that I know all the stories, don’t get me wrong about that, just saying that doing what’s right and constantly thinking about what’s right are two different things.
I’ll be honest maybe a clean cut of ties may be best for now atleast. The wound is still fresh. I was in a similar situation the easiest thing was cutting ties and trying to forget.
I am literally in the same boat. But it’s a little different for me. My ex is the one who broke up with me after 4 years and tonnes of relationship issues and because of lack of trust and other issues he says he wants to be friends. I cannot be friends with him cause it’s a little hard. I blocked him but he still tries to call me to make some form of conversation like help🤦🏻♀️