Dating again after a breakup?
Wondering if anyone can relate to trying to date again after a breakup?
It's been over six months since my relationship ended. I've been focusing on friendships and therapy, but I've started looking at dating apps again a little. I don't really know what I am ready for; part of me feels like something snapped from having such a huge emotional investment in my ex and I don't know if I can connect with someone like that yet. I also frequently don't feel safe with a one night stand with a stranger. Maybe I can just try to communicate I don't know what I'm ready for, but looking to meet new people to get back out there a little at a time.
@Daydreamer47
Maybe you can try to find friend groups until you are ready to think about starting a new relationship.
several sites like are made to find people / groups who hike or book clubs or art or something
I think far too often people think they should get involved to show they moved on or something but rebound things often do not last.
@Daydreamer47 don't let your ex stop you form things you want to do don't feel guilty if you want a relationship that's very hypocritical of me to say because I'm still trying to figure thing's out but do what you think will make you happy don't let people hold you back, if your not ready don't force yourself
@decisiveBanana7177 thanks. I'm definitely not ready for a very serious long term relationship but I think I am becoming more ready for maybe a short term fling or just going on dates to see where it goes. I am very oriented towards connecting and physical touch, just doing my best to be upfront so I don't hurt somebody's feelings and taking it one step at a time.
@Daydreamer47 well if you know what you want do what make's your heart happy
That sounds good and honest
I was talking to someone I started to like a little, but I told him I haven't dated in a while and wanted something less serious and he said he is looking for a serious relationship and cancelled our date. :( Tbh I can't blame him and don't want to hurt him but I am feeling a little more down today. I hope I can find someone else more in a similar place as me.
It’s hard getting back out there and restarting all over again. I was stupid to get into another relationship month after a breakup. Dating sites stink bc it’s always people just looking to hook up. Most successful one is Fb dating that I’ve had luck on. I’ve tried dating but these days seams everyone like to lie or just be temporary. Just make sure you’re ready before you get out there
@orangesherbert thanks orange. yeah it is hard and I struggle with being to be interested in somebody from just a profile but I am trying. I am trying to just go on some dates and see. It is also hard because my graduate program ends in about a year and a half, and I am stressed to navigate dating with potentially moving after school. I might not get married until I'm like 40 lol but I think it is more common for people to do that later in life these days so I'm sure I'm not alone
Yeah I’ feel u on that. I wouldn’t get involved if you’re moving. I got to the point to where im just whatever but want to see someone too. But I’m having trust issues even if someone haven’t given me a reason
@orangesherbert I am sorry you are having trust issues. Same obviously lol. I do plan to date short term/casually but it just means finding people who are open to that and that I can feel safe with which is definitely there but takes time to match. I did find another person who is looking for something short term who seems nice and likes cats lol so I would like to give him a chance.
