Dealing with a tough breakup? Join us here in venting!
@jzmng97 @Green57 @girafa @colehf
Hey guys! I created this thread so we can talk more about our situation and provide help for each other. How are you four doing today?
Anyone else who sees this thread is more than welcome to jump in at any time, if you're going through a bad breakup. Let's stick together during this process. 
Hi. I'm new here. My boyfriend of ~1.5 years broke up with me last month. We were good friends before we were boyfriend/ girlfriend. He was afraid of falling in love, and so he cheated on me then broke up with me. I am doing ok for the most part. But suddenly, i just had this longing pain to talk to him. Part of me wants to move on fully, but part of me just wants it to go back to how it was before, before he cheated on me, when we (well at least I was) were happy. I dont's know what to say, or how else to express it, so i thought I'd write here... thanks for listening
Hello! I broke up with my boyfriend of 6 months 2 weeks ago...actually he broke up with me...i cant stop obsessing about him all day long and nothing seems more important...i deleted him from all social media and his phone number so as to get him out of my life but things are still pretty bad...he broke up with me telling me that he didnt feel an intimacy between us and thought we were very different...the truth is we didnt start our relationship right from the beginning and took things slow first...just hanging out...so we did few things together and in my view it was impossible to grow an intimacy between us...but that didnt stop me from really loving that guy ...he wanted a relationship really badly and when we said we will do it more together he just left...i feel so angry to myself cause i didnt do more for him but also to him for not trying for us and not talking about his hesitation earlier...its crazy how some people get away so easily and just are able to move on while you love them so deeply...i know from my experience that time heals everything and i know that i can get through this...but the thing is that he was so special and kind...how do i let go of a chance to a great relationship and move on...i can heal from a heartbreak but can i from a lost chance to happiness? i know we make our own happiness and i agree...but i wanna try everything to win him back...so i decided to call him after 2 months when we will be both more calm and try to show him what he means to me...what do you think? should i do that or just let it go? thanks a lot <3
@Happinesswhere I too so badly want to reach out to my ex. we have been vroken up for jus over a month. We have not had any contact in over a week, which is the longest we have gone since we knew each other - jut under 2 years... I know the feelign to want to connect is an urge so hard to fight. reaching out here and to friends is a good way to try to get things straight. I'd say, yes, give it time. maybe in 2 months the longing will be less? I sure hope it is (for me too)...
@Regatta707 it's very important to cut every contact for one to two months...we unfortunately have to force ourselves to do it no matter how much we want a talk with the ex...this way we will feel better with ourselves and even if things eventually dont work out we will get over the situation easier...just try not to break the no contact ;) (both of us must!) lots of love!
Hi , I have not exactly experienced a breakup, but this is my story in a nutshell. I've been friends with a guy for a long time and about a month ago i stayed over at his place and we made out/cuddled . Anyway this week he was being evasive and when I asked him about it , he blatantly told me he's developed feelings for a girl and was spending time with her. Now he gave no indication of wanting to pursue a relationship with me , he did not lead me on. However he did sa he planned on going to the USA and so he did not want to date. He also mentioned that currently, he cant afford a gf. This led me to think that it was just circumstances that stopped him from maybe wanting to date me. I also have been very supportive towards him, helping him to apply for jobs, get part time work, researching short courses for him etc. And I feel as if he just did not appreciate anything and does not care about me at all. Am i wrong to feel hurt or betrayed ? Any advice on whether I should cut him out of my life or if I should just stay friends ?
My boyfriend broke up with me two days ago. We weren't talking for about two weeks, until he finally decided to answer my text. (Which is when he broke up with me.) He says it's because he has a lot going on at home and with school, and I do understand because I know the problems he's dealing with. However, I'm going through stuff as well, and I don't think giving up on your relationship is a good way to cope with your problems. It just doesn't make sense to me. Anyways, ever since then I've been crying every day. I literally cannot go a day without crying. I just feel like I've never cared about someone as much as I care about him. I honestly don't feel like I can get over it. Sometimes I feel a little abandoned I guess. I mean if you really care about someone you can't just drop them like that. It just doesn't make sense to me.
@xoRose7 I'm sorry to hear that. It is very easy to feel rejected in this type of situation, but I hope you can come to the realization that perhaps whatever it is he is "dealing" with has nothing to do with you. Believe me, I have been there in the past and it is so hard for something to end, especially when you don't feel you are getting a good or honest explanation. I also feel that in a truly loving authentic relationship, both parties want, and do communicate their feelings, fears and doubts. A relationship is something two people work at. They are not always easy, but when there is respect, adoration and trust, it is the most rewarding experience. Reach out to your support people, journal your thoughts. I hope you feel better.
I like my ex still. I know everyone is going to tell me to move on and forget about her but I can't. I've tried to so many times yet there's always this feeling in me that keeps her on my mind. I guess I depended on her more than I thought. She meant everything to me. There wasn't a thing I wouldn't do for her. She made me feel special and whole. No one has ever done that for me before. I relied on her so much that when she left it destroyed me. Ever since January 5th I've been miserable. My mood went from happy to depressed so quickly. It got so bad that I can hardly look myself in the mirror anymore. I just want to scream all the time. I decided I wanted to start talking to her again sometime around last month but before I even had a chance she puts the date 4/27/17 with hearts by them in her bio on Instagram with someone initials next to them. She had replaced me. If the break up didn't devestate me finding out she had a new boyfriend did. I was upset I could barley stand. I couldn't think just stare at the wall in sheer terror. Two of my worst nightmares just became realities and there isn't a thing I could do to stop it. I feel like an old toy that she tossed aside for a better one. I wanted to scream how I felt to her so badly to see if I could change her mind but I knew I would never be heard not like that anyway. I don't know what to do anymore I want her back really badly but how can I win her back? How can get her to notice me again let alone like me? Is what I'm feeling right? Should I stay quiet and let this feeling destroy what little of me is left? I just want her back....
I still like my ex. I know everyone is going to tell me to move on but I can't. I've tried really hard to but there's just this feeling that keeps me hooked to here. I guess it's because I've never felt as good around her as I did with anyone else. EVER. She made me feel so special and important. No one not even me has ever done that. She was what motivated me have me self confidence and assured me that no matter what happens as long as I was with her it was going to be fine. That's why when she broke up with me I was destroyed. Ever since January 5th of this year( the day we broke up) I haven't been able to recover. I've tried so many times. Went on so many dates but nothing worked. I decided I wanted to talk to her again sometime last month and try to get back with her. But before I knew it she had the date 4/27/17 with hearts and someone's initials next to it. She had replaced me. I felt like an old toy that was tossed aside for a shinier new one(toy story). But in all seriousness though, if the break up didn't devestate me, then seeing this finished the job. I want to win her back but I don't how, I don't know if I should be feeling the way that I feel about her, I don't know if it's right to try, I don't if I should just keep quiet and let this feeling destroy what little of me is left. I just want her back....
