Devastated

@quietplane your going to be sad for a while since you were with your bf for 6 years i was only with my ex for 9 months and now i am looking forward to dating again thats all i can say really

@quietplane

Hey there, hopefully you are doing well. There's a few things I would like to point out;

Absolutely heartbroken and lost. My boyfriend of 6 years broke up with me and Im feeling so alone, sad and lost. (I could see why you would feel this way, you spent 6 years with him and now it really hurts things ended between the two of you) We had the most perfect relationship, I felt so lucky! and were saving to buy our own house. Out of the blue he confesses to me he doesnt feel himself, no longer feels anything and has distanced himself from friends family and me. (Hmmm this is very strange...so things were going well between the two of you, you two were going to take things to the next level an then all of this happens. I feel like there could be some sort of depression or he really felt scared or anxious when he thought of you two moving in together. Some people get cold feet before this big decision because of how much of an important decision this can be) He also just wanted to be alone and focus on his job. (He is all over the place, and has zero awareness of how he feels inside. The reality is he didn't want to take thing further because of fears, and now is planning to focus on his job) He had previously been in and out of jobs *(Is there a reason he has not kept a steady job?) but he has now found one he loves and is working so much. I helped him through all those hard times, now I feel he has the job he always wanted and so no longer needs me in his life. (Its tought feeling like this and its understandable why you would feel this way after all you have helped him, but he decided to leave because of things that are internal within him, not anything about you) He now sees a councillor for depression after i suggested this to him. I want him to be happy however I feel like Ive been abandoned by the person I never ever thought would leave me feeling like this. (Its normal the way you feel, it felt like you two were going to live together and things went well, but then he decided to end things. Its okay to feel this way.) Im now not enjoying daily life as Im so sad and I cant stop thinking about him. (This is part of the process, its just unfortunate how painful it can and how long it takes, but in due time it will improve.) I was living for our relationship and now I dont know how to be alone. (You mentioned something very important "I was living for our relationship", so this is a sign you projected unmet needs, your individuality dependend on him, and love (other things) came more from him than internally. I could relate how tough it can to know how to be alone, but its so important to have a relationship within and a sense of self that doesn't come from others) Ive lost meaning to my life and dont know how to recover from this. (You are not alone, a lot of people go through this after long term relationships. It feels dark and hurtful thinking "how can i get through this" and "am i going to be able to do this without him", but in due time you will see how strong you are and even learn new things about yourself) I have plenty friends but dont feel like they understand, they think Ill just get over it eventually...(Friends and family they try to help, however at times they might not have the empathy to understand how you feel because of their past, but its completly normal how you feel at the moment. You were with him for 6 years, so hurt and sadness are quite common to have because of the way things ended)truly devastated.