Do I break up with him?!

I'm not sure how someone who loves you could justify going to a party without you and getting drunk in the first place. Everyone knows that anything goes when you're drunk enough. Unless he's not very much into exclusive relationships. Maybe there's some deeper issue, like he's bored of you or something. You might need to have a serious talk with him, and both of you clearly explain what you expect out of the relationship. And I mean you don't have to force yourself to be with him if you can't trust him anymore. I say it's better to have no boyfriend at all than one who doesn't even respect you.

Of course I'm not really the ideal voice here, I of course am a more jealous person than what is considered normal.

@notsosimple8

I'm so sorry to hear this. This must have been really painful for you. And I understand that being insecure just makes it worse.

He says that he still loves you, then what does he say about making out with someone else. Why did he do this?
If you choose to stay together, can you trust him completely once more?

@notsosimple8

When I feel insecure (which is a lot), it often means that the one I don't trust is myself. I don't trust that I'm good enough or worthy enough and most of all, I don't trust that I can cope if whatever I'm fearing actually happens. The problem with this type of insecurity is that I look to others to make me feel secure. In order to do that, they have to keep proving over and over again that they won't do anything wrong or hurtful.

That's impossible. People are flawed. Everyone will mess up, deliberately or not.

So, I work on giving myself feelings of worthiness (hard, hard work that is) and I come up with ways to cope if the thing I fear comes to pass. It helps and it takes the pressure off the other person. If I were in your shoes, I would break up with BF. I would tell him that I care for him but I can't be with someone who would do something like that. If he wants to get back together, he'll have to earn that right by showing (not telling) why I can trust him again. At that point, it would be up to me to decide if I want him back.

@notsosimple8 I think that anyone who does anything to cheat on you do it because they want to. I think that it's important to put your happiness before anything rather than the fear of regretting your decision. You deserve to feel happy with someone who loves you and wouldnt make out with someone else. If you stay in the relationship you'll constantly feel insecure a lot more than if you were in a relationship with someone who you completley trust

@notsosimple8

Hi. I dont have all the answers as I dont know you guys at all except what you posted on here. I am sorry you are having to figure this mess out, any cheating or affair can be really difficult to work through. That being said, there are many couples that go through affairs and work things out. There are many that dont. You both can chose how to move forward. Just becasue he kissed another girl while drunk doesnt mean he doesnt love you, in my opinion. It could have been a really bad mistake. It could have been more. You too will really need to work together and heal together. He will have to help you and you will have to help yourself. Being insecure and having your partner cheat on you complicates things. In order for you to move foward you will have to work on your healing. Its possible to work this through but you both are going to have to be willing to work together and do your own part.

@notsosimple8 I know you want to trust him again, but it's less about what you want now and more about what you think you can achieve. If you think you can trust again in time and in your head you know it will never ever happen again, then try working at it, but from personal experience once trust is broken it is very hard on both parties to reestablish a healthy relationship again. You know what you can and can't put up with in a relationship and a relationship without trust, doesn't have much foundation for growth. Can you trust him again?

The guy that I'm with now i have been with before. We were together for 8 months and were completely in love. We were inseparable. So much that we were even engaged. But then one of my close friends told me she saw him having sex with his best female friend. Me being me, was hurt and terrified. I had had people cheat on me in the past. And convinced me to stay with him. So i was terrified that this would be the same thing so i just ended it with my boyfriend. Without telling him everything and just blocked him completely on everything.
But then i got into an argument with this so called friend and the truth came out that my boyfriend didn't do anything wrong.
And months later he has forgiven me and we are back together. But I'm having problems because hes different from last time. Hes more into drugs and he ignores me allot. I feel like we Are not meant for each other anymore. Maybe we have both changed too much.

I don't know what to do.