Ex hates me now

@Caitlinrosee

Hey there, hopefully you are doing well. There's a few things I would like to point out;

Ok so my ex and I broke up about a month ago, but we were still friends and it was good. Well last night one of his friends started talking to me out of the blue and I thought he was cool so I kept talking to him. Then things escalated and we played truth or dare, and then he kept asking for nudes even when I told him no several times. (This is a sign the person wanted ulterior motives and didn't respect the fact you said "no" several times.) I told my ex this morning about this because I still trust him and were friends, and thought he should know. Well now my ex doesnt like me, is mad at me for talking to him, (Your ex seems controlling and somewhat manipulative. There's zero need of him to get mad if you talk to other guys because you two are not in a relationship. The main reason he got mad is because of his ego, and this feeling of "you shouldn't talk to another guy except for me". This has nothing to do with anything you did, the problem is him) and doesnt want anything to do with me. (This is the kind of "friendship" thats toxic and unhealthy for you because he is willing to drop the friendship at any time you do something he doesn't like. His behavior and actions are not healthy at all) He confronted his friend about this and the friend said I was lying. (This other friend seems toxic as well because he seems to say lies on order to get himself out of trouble even at the cost of others) I feel like shit now that I just ruined our friendship when I still really really care about him and love him. (I understand you feel bad about the situation, but the one who ruined the friendship is him with his controlling, manipulative and anger issues. He is the type of person who would end things or walk away if things don't go the way he wants or if you start talking with other guys. His behavior is toxic and unhealthy for you) Im afraid he is going to believe his friend, and will never actually think this through and realize that Im not the bad guy, (the biggest one at least) and Im sorry for doing this. (I can understand why you would feel afraid since he could believe his friend, but he is mostly focused on his own anger and ego to the point he won't listen to anyone. You have nothing to apologize for because you didn't do anything wrong) Im also sooo mad that I didnt even realize to get proof of the things he was saying to me. (It's okay, your words should have been enough for him, however he is mostly focused on his anger, feeling rejected and that you are talking with someone else than in what you are saying) And also we broke up because he didnt feel the same anymore and It absolutley broke me since I was still in love with him. (It's understandable you feel this way since the relationship ended) Maybe this is my exs way of trying to blame me, and showing me that I did something wrong and he got hurt too. (Your ex did ended the relationship, however he seems insecure and controlling. He find out you were talking with someone else (there's nothing wrong with this), so this anxiety and anger became high because of what he perceived in his own mind. If he got hurt then thats his problem because you don't owe him any explanation. I feel he is behaving like a child, and he blew everything out of proportion because of his controlling and anger issues) Idk I just want my ex and I to have our friendship back, (It's a bad idea to have a friendship with him, the way he behave tells me the friendship will be toxic, unhealthy, inconsistent and periods of him dissappearing on you because of his issues)or at least for him to not hate my guts— because I mean we were in love at one point.