Exwife drama
I am new here. I have come to the conclusion I cannot deal with this without some help and maybe direction. I no longer have feelings for my ex other than hate and lack of respect. We were married for 15 years and together for 18. I worked so hard to be the best suporter but it was never good enough. I also made some mistakes, lack of apreciationand suport, thru my journey. Her biggest problems as timed rolled by were lack of intamacy, never felt loved like I should have, and she couldnt comunicate, ever. So here I sit typing away because I need help with ways to not get upset or let things get to me when I have to deal with her. We have 2 kids together, teenagers. This is the only contact we have but it is enough to ruin a great day anytime. She has this power over me to get me pissed and I cant shake it. What do I do????
I can identify, I was married 11 years to my ex wife and had similar issues. I had to come to grips with the fact that as much as I wanted to believe I was owed all the things she lacked for me (love,patience ,caring ,empathy,respect etc...) I truly wasn't owed those things. See her a flawed human who has issues of her own. Feel sorry for her and offer words of good will and take the high road. I promise you will feel better and be a better person for it.
I don't have much patience w/my husband and I'm not very emotional. We are together too much - we have an auto shop - and I get sick of being w/him 24/7 .. he doesn't know what space is. But I always keep my mouth shut about that. He thinks he runs the show. I've been w/him for 5 years, married almost 2 .. no kids. I don't want kids. A lot of women who are cold, quiet, wear an invisible "shield", and need boundaries had issues as kids/teens. I hate being smothered. He's so smothering and affectionate. I'm cold. Idk how we even got together! But .. my point is, both of you enlightened me w/what you said. Men have feelings too. Women overexamine shit and think all men are heartless assholes. Not true.
