Got cheated on...how do I move on?
My boyfriend recently told me that he had cheated on me while drunk a few months ago... Ive come to know him so well and this is completely out of character. Hes been nothing but remorseful and I can see how much its been eating him up inside and I know in my heart he wants to fix everything and make it all fine....but I keep finding myself circling back to it, the thought of him with someone else keeps playing itself over and over in my mind and i know its not healthy for the both of us to continue dwelling on it. I dont want to break up because I knows hes better than that and there were a lot of things going on in his life that probably caused it all (I know thats no excuse) so I just dont know how to move past this because I want to have a future with him, weve created an inseparable bond. He really is my best friend and Ive been in enough relationships to know that he is nothing like the men Ive been with. I just need guidance.
@anonyTortoise3809
Personally I think that this is a very difficult situation for you both to be in. At it's heart is a breakdown of trust, and rebuilding trust is a real pain.
Firstly, his part. He needs to demonstrate to you that he is worthy of you. So, basically, he needs not to get drunk, and to keep in touch when he goes out with his mates. He needs to properly buy in to the relationship, in other words.
Secondly, your part. Ideally you will start over with him. Just as you have had other boyfriends, in the past, you need to draw a line and start again. If you met him today, would you want to be with him? And under what terms? Do you get the idea?
Is it easy? No. Will the jealous feelings come back from time to time? Yes. Is it worth it? Well, that's the question, isn't it.