Guilt Can Be Tricky
My husband cheats and Im feeling guilty about it!! I need to let go of it all. Unfortunately, its still very fresh and the holidays are upon us. 😞ðŸ˜
Christmas Ill be with family but they dont live near me and so for New Years Ill be alone! 🥺
@Pba7355
The fact that he's cheating, says nothing about you and everything about him, trust me. You should be with somebody who truly chooses you, and doesn't want to have anybody extra on the side (in the romantic sense obviously, not the friendship sense). It's going to be really hard and scary but you're going to get through this. You're worthy of somebody who chooses you. Giving you my best wishes
@Anxiousbean2310 thank you for the support and kind words. Today was really hard at times but I got through it. Im on no sleep which I feel is causing me to feel especially bad, so I really need to get some sleep tonight.
@Pba7355
There is absolutely NO reason you are to blame for him cheating. When someone cheats, it is ALWAYS the cheater's fault. It's not yours. It's not that you're not good enough, it's not that you're busy all the time, it's his fault for not being able to appreciate you. You're worthy of someone who will commit to you and be loyal. There's not even a sliver of the blame that should go to you. It's HIS fault. Not yours. Don't feel like you need to let go of it all. Don't feel like you need to forgive him. Don't feel guilty for not being able to. He mistreated you. That's his fault. You have no reason at all to forgive him. Don't let it slide. I don't think this marriage is right. If he's going to be disloyal to you, get out the door.
@Jisola thank you as well. I need the support as I don
@Pba7355
i understand that. By the way, if you're looking for a listener who you can talk to, I recommend you to try calmfaith8112. She's helped me through my hardest times and still does. truly the best I've ever talked to. super understanding, very respectful and soooo sweet. She gives the best advice and I've never had to worry about her misunderstanding me. She'll make you feel comfortable and safe.
@Jisola thank you for the recommendation. I will reach out to her. :)