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Having a difficult time with breakup-need advice

User Profile: peacesigngrl3
peacesigngrl3 March 17th, 2021

I told my long distance boyfriend of almost 2 years that we should take a break. Whenever he was home for a visit, all we would do is hangout with his parents at their house and he either slept or looked at his phone when we were together. When I suggested the break, all he said was “I don’t know” and “I’m not sure”. He didn’t argue it. He was struggling with his mental health and stress with his job/health issues but I wasn’t helping him by just sitting there doing nothing. He had no motivation to do anything but, he had energy to go hunting/fishing with his dad or be intimate with me. I would usually say no considering I told him multiple times that I wasn’t comfortable doing that in his parents house (which annoyed him). He said that I left when he could have “used” me the most. I found out the break turned into a breakup by him changing his profile picture/ relationship status without even communicating with me. He said that he tried to text/call me a few days after the break, but I think he lied because I never got anything from him. I did receive texts from his mom trying to guilt trip me into staying. She said they all still loved me though but then unfriended me on social media. After a month of no contact, he told me that if we ever got back together, I would have to “prove that I’m worth getting back into a relationship with.” While I tried to communicate with him, I said that I loved, cared and hoped he finds what he’s looking for. All he said was thank you. The last words he said to me were “take care, have a good one.”

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User Profile: lifeisbeautiful37
lifeisbeautiful37 March 19th, 2021

I think you’re better off without him—and his mom. Sorry tho for what you’re going through!

User Profile: carambole
carambole March 26th, 2021

I am so sorry to see that this is happening to you. That is harsh. It seems that the break turned break up is retaliation, he wants to inflate his ego. He lacks maturity, I think.