Heartbroken that ex left

@carefulPond7166

Hey there, hopefully you are doing well. Theres a few things I would like to point out;

It would take forever to talk about before and after the break up. Id like to just summarize how I feel and what Ive went through. I dated this girl between one or two years. Things were amazing. We had so much in common, I liked everything about her, and I loved her. Awhile before the break up, shes been acting odd. She became distant, she didnt have much time for me anymore, (This was a sign she was starting to invest less and slowly take you for granted. This usually happens when you are investing far more into her and possibly show anxious behaviors. I can tell she is not good at communicating, she probably kept things inside without telling you how she feels) and each time we would hang out she would be on her phone. (Thats not cool...this shows she is using the phone to not properly connect or be present with you, so this will make you feel disconnected. Its not fair she was placing more priority in some device than to spend time with you) I would place her phone away (I wouldn't have done this...to be honest i would have walk away because its not cool what she did) and kindly let her know that I would love to talk to her about whatever since we were hanging out. (This was mature of you to do and say) She always claimed that it didnt matter (This tells me she lacks empathy, projects feelings on you, and doesn't know how to behave properly. She minimized how you were feeling here, which will cause a ruptured conenction) because she was in love (Justifying herself and lacks the understand of the situation, she is not the type of woman who will be attuned to how how you feell) and could talk to me as she used her phone. (She was not present here) I didnt want to think to much of it. (It did bothered you, its just you were afraid to speak on it further and you didn't want to lose her)It lasted two weeks before the last day of school occurred. I got myself all cleaned up and dressed nicely mainly for my girlfriend at the time. I show up and expect to see her where she would always meet me up but never did and I felt stood up. (This shows she was rude and disrespectful, its awful what she did here) I go home and realize she didnt show up to school. Only awhile later, I get a message letting me know that she wasnt happy in the relationship. (How nice of her to say this through text...this shows she doesn't have much adult behaviors and she is showing a lack of empathy for how this would make you feel) It hurt me so bad because I literally tried my best in being the best boyfriend that I can for her. I gave up so many things and time to be with her. (This was sweet of you, and like once a month you should do this, but if you did this often then your value in her eyes will decrease because all you are doing is pleasing her to not lose her) It also hurt because it sounded like she practically said that she lied to me all this time about loving me. She claimed she never lied to and its not my fault but she just been going through things which I doubt sadly. (She was using excuses here)

The break up didnt go all that well mainly because you know its a break up with the line. She tried her best ending it on good terms but I felt there wasnt much effort to it. Weve been dating for so long yet she breaks up with over text and on the last day. (This is very childish of her, and it shows how she rather end things over text than to face you) She just repeated sorry which I would later on forgive her. (This forgivness part doesn't come across as genuine...) She wanted us to be friends but insisted that we be strangers. (I think is a bad idea to be friends with her because being friends only benefits her in moving on faster.) Ive been through so much with her and I feel like I just cant. I told her Id try since she claimed its something that would make her happy. (In other words; "Ill push down how i feel and what i want on order to please you after the way you treated me during dates and how you ended things over text". This is not going to make her to treat you with respect, the only thing you should give her is the gift of missing you after the way she treated you) Something weird that caught me off guard was the next week I would text her to see how she was doing (You are practically reaching out first to a woman who treated you poorly, was too busy being in her phone while on dates and who end things over text..You need to have the self-respect to let her do all of the reaching out first...she needs to be the one earning you back...) and hits me with wow I cant believe you see me as some bitch. (Her model of the world is that everyone is a hater or they have something against her or said something) I was so confused since I never said or done anything bad to her. She then practically pushed me out of the messages claiming that she wasnt in the mood and she needed space. (How rude of her...) I obviously gave her that. We would see each other a few times but she acted like I never existed and that she was happy. (I promise you that between 90-100% people like her are never happy, so the play this "tough role" which makes them feel even more sad) Then a school starts and the first month in, she hooks up easily with a friend of mine. Then I also started to notice all her friends disliked me which was weird. They all thought we were perfect for each other and I was boyfriend material.