Help me understand please
My husband walked out on me and our 2 boys (17&14) 7 weeks ago. He's had little contact with any of us since. We've been married 22 years and together 30 from we were 16. We didn't argue and fight this has been a total shock for everyone myself, close friends family everyone. No one knew. He says he no longer loves me or desires a relationship. There is no one else (and I think this is true) he just wants to be alone. He is done. No fight, no second chance, no nothing just up and gone. I am in so much pain. My boys are destroyed. He was my best friend. He actively sought my company daily and told me there were no signs to see. I thought we were forever I thought we were happy. How can I have been so wrong. What on earth has happened. He said these feelings started 18 Months ago he tried to fix it (by telling nobody least of all me) he just up and left.
@helloCircle2372 Hi! I hope you are doing well. I am so sorry to hear about your situation. I want you to know that you don't deserve what happened and this was not your fault. I hope you are doing okay and taking care of yourself and your boys. Please know that you are never alone and please feel free to reach out to a Listener at any time! We are here for you! 💛
Could it be mental illness? I’m so sorry. It sounds like there was absolutely nothing you could have done different so please don’t be torturing yourself over anything. I know it makes no sense. I imagine the universe has some new plans for you. Time heals all wounds, they say. Please stay well and take good care of yourself and your health. You aren’t alone in your confusion over events like this. You will make it through.
@helloCircle2372
If he felt things were changing 18 months ago......... perhaps he just sees no future.... I think it is hard to understand and quite a shock to your family but take a moment and see if someone makes that choice it is a last resort thing..... do you want him to come back and PRETEND and be miserable for your feelings ...
i know it is hard on kids and i am sad for your children but something went wrong..... so many times people say i had no idea or everything was fine.... was it?
my spouse would say that too........ but honestly i could pack up tomorrow and never look back because i have NO feelings for them anymore ..... time does not matter when you fall out of love of find you just are not capable of going through the motions anymore...... especially if a spouse cannot see your changing feelings .