How do I stop
I recently found out my husband of 6 years cheated on me. I saw he was messaging multiple women being flirty and sexual over text and phone calls. He slept with 2 and there’s more than 10 that he just sexted. I know I shouldn’t. But I get these urges to message these girls and let them know I existed. Most thought he was single according to him. Some knew he was married and continued to entertain. He’s a horrible person for disrespecting me and throwing me out. How do I stop these urges to message these women? How do I stop feeling angry towards the girls and him? How do I find my peace and move on?
Hey Newself!!!
First of all, I really understand your frustration and anger and want to let you know that it's completely okay to feel this way.
What happened to you is horrible and you've obviously dealt with it wisely and reaching out for help is even too brave and mature.
I'm sorry for what has been happening to you lately. But bad times always pass and good ones are ahead.
If you think that not texting these women anymore is a good thing to do then here are some tips on how to prevent yourself from texting somebody:
1. Get rid of all of their contact information.
2. Lose connection with them
3. Count to 30 then take 3 deep breaths and try moving on.
4.remind yourself why you don't want to text them
5. Talk to someone else about it. (Could be a listener here)
6. Ask someone to distract you (could be a listener here)
7. Make yourself as busy as possible (distract yourself)
8. Think of new goals
9. Focus on your hobbies.
Finally, I hope you feel better soon, if you'd like to talk to someone then please let me know...I'd love to talk to you!!!! Or if you don't want to talk to me specifically then I can connect you with another listener.
Best regards, have a nice day
Maya.
@Newself756
sounded like you already texted........ let them know you exist and he is a liar ....... some will not care as they want to play around with him married or not.
what else would you say to them ? The problem is him not them....
if someone you texted says "hey i did not know you are married" and dumps him........ he will find a replacement.... or perhaps he wants you mad and to leave him.
have you asked him why?........ or gotten any answers from him..... was your relationship going well before or was there disconnect ?
some are types that just try to see who they can convince to *** or sleep with them but ...really many cheaters are looking for a connection they do not have at home............. does not have to be sex but feeling attractive or listened to and respected is sometimes enough....
you can move on .... as many do but there was a reason he looked elsewhere.
