How do you let go of someone who is bad for you but you still seem to love them?

Hi , it felt bad listening to your situation .

But as you said you broke up with him but still have feelings for him. So , for now assuming that you want to forget him . You msy need a companion even a pet might work (definately not fish) , then you can identify your different emotions as what you feel when you remember him and then do you have some alternate sources to fulfill those emotions?

@loli490

This is probably not what you want to hear, but it took me 3 years to get over my ex. Similar to you, I loved him very much... he did not love me. Never treated me well, probably the person who has hurt me the most in the world. But I couldn't stop loving him even after it ended and I had no contact with him... it just took time. I had to grieve. And everyone grieves differently. So all I can really say is let yourself grieve. Feel what you feel. And in time, you will heal. How much time, I don't know.

Loli - it's good that you cut ties with this person seeing the vast destruction and impact they keep having on your life. This person does not value your time, energy, or even thoughts because they keep taking advantage. Its normal to still be sad for months, or even years about decisions and breakups. The healing process is never easy, and oftentimes people can create leftover emotional scars you never even knew you had. When I was hurt by my past ex, how I got over that was actually crying. I let all of it out. As much as I needed to. I talked to friends about it until I was done talking to them. I watched speeches on YouTube that told me I was great and nobody could diminish my light. I listened to Whitney Houston's the "Greatest Gift of All," over, and over again (I even sang it) until I started to love myself again. It took an entire year to recover from my breakup but man, did I heal. Others inspired me to get up and continue living. You live for yourself first and foremost. Do NOT let any person dictate to you otherwise. What is helping me heal now from a recent breakup is watching Reels on Instagram or YouTube with similar experiences like mine because it doesn't make me feel as alone. It's really important to talk about what happened to you fully so you can heal from it and move on with your beautiful life. There is so much to see and do in this life and I hope you get to experience it all Loli. Best wishes to you, you'll be alright dear. Time heals all. I know you are hurting, share more with us. Heal with us. Live your life on your terms, you only get one.