I don't know what to do now
I am 30 years old man from India. I recently broke up with my 25 years old gf. We had been in relationship for three years. But our relationship does not seem to go anywhere. My parents had been pressuring me to get married, so I had asked her to talk to her parents as well. But she is not settled in her career right now so she wants to wait for two years before she can disclose our relationship to her dad. She is afraid that if she talk to her dad now, he would disagree and not let us be together. She wants to get settled first and then tell her dad so that if he does not agree she can be independent and run away and get married. But this is too uncertain for me, I am not in support of running away as it will cause lot of grief to our families. I want to try and convince every one but she is saying I can't do that until she is settled i.e. I have to just wait for two years and do nothing. What will I tell my parents for the time being ? We both love each other and I have been feeling completely empty and lost since we broke up. But I don't know what to do now ..I don't have a solution. Should I move on or be with her for two years and then try for marriage ? Am I wrong to not agree for running away ?
@helpfulApricot5044 sorry to hear that maybe just give it time but sometimes its for the best to break up
Man, you love each other. You can’t just give up for her. I understand that there are some cultural and family peculiarities that I cannot interfere with, but you must understand that this is YOUR life, YOUR marriage, YOUR happiness and YOUR decision. If you really love each other, you should fight for each other. You will never forgive yourself if you just let her go so easily. You have to accept the fact that she is a modern young woman (also younger than you) and she wants to be an independent person. Talk to her, give her some time. I hope everything goes well with you both.
